Very often before a serious event we experience anxiety, which can either help or ruin everything if it is excessive, turning into anxiety, or even a panic attack. Because of this, you can miss important thoughts and arguments and lose focus. The body can also fail: tremors, confused breathing and speech, dryness or a lump in the throat, dizziness, sweating, etc. To tune in to a responsible conversation, you need to take into account the characteristics of your body and nervous system, namely: - a comfortable pace of your work and life - at what time of day and in what state are you more productive - take into account the peculiarities of switching attention (fast / slow) If you are more productive at a fast pace, and a busy schedule only tones up and reduces anxiety, then no matter how strange it may sound , it is better to have an important conversation in between. In the literal sense of the word. Important negotiations do not always require preparation; for some, this only contributes to anxiety. If you know perfectly well what needs to be said and why, then there is no need to overwhelm yourself once again. Intense silence can be worse than emergency work. If the switching of attention occurs slowly, it is quite difficult to improvise and quickly navigate in changing circumstances, if you prefer a leisurely pace of life and work, and there is also high anxiety, then it is recommended to set aside separate time for preparation:- try to ensure that nothing distracts you as much as possible during the conversation; if possible, put off non-urgent matters until the conversation; prepare for yourself a rough plan that will consist of clear, concise, logical sequences (depending on the goals of the information you want to convey or receive ) - create comfortable conditions for yourself, choose a place for the conversation or wear comfortable clothes - immediately before the conversation, do breathing exercises or gradual muscle relaxation, as well as exercises to relax the vocal cords - prepare for yourself an alternative plan of action if the negotiations are unsuccessful. B Depending on your lifestyle, attentiveness and productivity may be different at different times of the day, this should also be taken into account. The most basic and important thing you can do to help yourself is to study the characteristics of your psyche and body. Nobody knows you better than you. And universal advice will not always be viable in this case. Observe how you react to various circumstances, in which cases you perform well and when you do not, what affects you the most and makes you confused. It is weaknesses that show the path to development. Online psychologist, CBT therapist Ilyina Yulia Igorevna. Sign up for a consultation: +79138523829 (Whats App, Telegram)