You don’t know how to accept criticism Who else will tell you the truth if not me?! Why just pat you on the head? Learn to listen to other opinions about yourself All these are the arguments of a manipulator and a tyrant (sometimes a savior in tyrant). Let me remind you that the goal in this case is to evoke feelings of fear, guilt, shame, uncertainty, so that the other will act contrary to his interests, but in accordance with the goals and expectations of the manipulator. Action. When criticism is not asked for. How to give it: No way. To shove your invaluable opinion into the merits of your own experience, and use it alone. Otherwise you are playing the role of a tyrant. Remember, criticism is passive aggression! At the same time, you add to the violation of the personal boundaries of another person.. How to accept it. No way. Do you want to become a victim? Do you really want to try on the manifestations of an aggressor? And then with your tongue you say exactly what you feel. Without getting personal. And the degree of your protection will depend on the depth of penetration into your borders. Action. When asked for criticism. How to give it Clearly answering the question asked. Without imposing your opinion and moving into a person’s personal territory. At the same time, if there is a feeling that you are now being made into a rescuer, it is better not to give it at all. Abstinence in this case will benefit your karma, and will help return the responsibility that the victim is trying to remove from himself. How to accept it A question to answer the question: why are you asking for criticism? What kind of masochism? The usual childhood position, when parental love was manifested in critical assessment? Rather, there will be a recommendation: to trust yourself more and rely on your adulthood. Please note, it is a completely different matter when it comes to professional feedback from a specialist upon request. So this is not a criticism. A professional without a “good”/“bad” assessment gives feedback when a person asks for it, making an analysis based on scientific knowledge and without imposing his life experience. Whether a person follows professional recommendations is his responsibility.