Infertility. A test for a couple A diagnosis of infertility is a difficult test for a woman. Especially if you can’t conceive and carry a baby for a long time. It’s hard to constantly fight for what other women get easily and simply. And the struggle for the happiness of being a mother itself causes an acute sense of injustice. There is another test that couples with reproductive difficulties go through. This is a test of the strength of their relationship. Over the years of working with infertility and miscarriage, I have come across different options for a couple to go through this crisis. And there is no one good way, because couples have to go through a lot. Infertility, miscarriage, IVF. Help for expectant mothersSex on a schedule, not when partners feel the desire, but when the doctor says. For many couples this is difficult from the very beginning, but for others they cope, but only at the beginning. What is it like to be with this for several years? At a minimum, there is a decrease in sexual desire. There are more reasons for quarrels and all of them are experienced and felt much more acutely, because the issue is very significant and valuable. Is it worth stopping parents’ questions about grandchildren they “will never see”? Do you need to go to your good friends for a holiday dedicated to the birth of their baby? How long do you grieve over perinatal loss and shed tears at any mention of children? Should they go for IVF? Men and women look at it completely differently... Infertility is NOT a death sentence. A long-term feeling of some invisible black cloud in their house, which seems to absorb any joys, planning joys and even thoughts about the joys of life... How to cope with everything with this? Do not hush up your pains and moods. Talk to each other about it. Don’t think that the other person “doesn’t need it”, “superfluous”, “at the wrong time”, etc. These are common difficulties, it is important to unite and support each other. Leave room for holidays, vacations, joys, and hobbies in your life. Being a parent is very important, but other areas of life are also valuable to a person. Both on their own and to maintain a good psycho-emotional state. Sometimes it happens that a woman bears a greater burden of worries related to infertility treatment and the establishment of family relationships. And she has no one to share her fears and pain with. In this case, do not delay visiting a psychologist. The specialist knows how to help you. Katerina Istratova is a female psychologist, author of books. I help you become a mother! 🧡Record via WhatsApp, Telegram, Viber +7(929) 9020234 +7(916) 4015150My book on the topic of infertility