From the author: The life scenario is formed on the basis of early scenario decisions. Moreover, you accept them in childhood, often in one situation, which is called a scenario. The life scenario can be changed if you realize and change your childhood scenario decisions and conclusions regarding real life. Read other materials on the topic: Scenario situation. Scenario decision-making scheme. As can be seen in the figure below, a scenario decision is always made by a child in a repeating or one-time situation, against the backdrop of very strong feelings and emotions. Then, in adolescence and adulthood, a person seeks confirmation of his decisions and behaves similarly in situations , reminiscent of an early scenario situation. Scenario solution. Remember everything... Thus, in order to change an early decision that forms a negative life scenario, you need to remember the situation in which you accepted it and the feelings that you experienced then. It is thanks to the strong emotions that you remembered it then, since emotional memory is the strongest. And thanks You can also use them to track your scenario settings. Examples of making scenario decisions in childhood. The best way to understand how to understand your early scenario decisions is by considering and analyzing real examples taken from my psychological practice. “Men cannot be trusted” One of my Clients, a 45-year-old woman came to discuss with me the “again and again” recurring situations in her life related to her marriage. She recently got married for the fourth time and again she came across a “weak-willed and worthless” partner, and also a drinker. And she always I fought terribly with my husbands. In response to my question about what situations from her past resembled these scandals, the Client remembered almost instantly that she exactly copied the quarrels of her parents. Scenario situation and feelings: Mother often yelled at her drunken father, blaspheming him with the latest words and nicknames. During these scandals, the daughter was very scared for her father and felt sorry for him. At the same time, she was angry with her dad and blamed her mother, afraid of being left without a father. Scenario solution: Men cannot be trusted. They are weak and helpless. Now I will be strong to control men, like my mother does. Seeking confirmation and scripted behavior: Throughout my youth, I look for (and find!) confirmation of the worthlessness and weakness of these unworthy boys, teenagers and guys. She cultivates strong character traits. The image of an ideal woman: a kind of careerist, an Amazon. She again and again chooses “weaklings” in her adult life. First, pitying them, and then properly dismissing them, he scolds and gets angry with them. All the time she is latently haunted by the fear of being left alone, which is what happens. “The tragic hero’s path” My client is a 50-year-old man, he came at the insistence of his wife - a kind of workaholic with a tense forehead, a gray face and tightly clenched jaws. This is what he remembered in response to my questions about childhood and how he brought himself to live like this - by the age of 50 he had already suffered a 2nd heart attack. Scenario situation and feelings: A drunk father in a dirty work uniform once again breaks dishes in front of his 5 year old son. In the boy’s soul, two strong feelings are fighting: horror, fear of falling under the hot hand and disgust from the appearance and face of his father, distorted by anger. Script decision: I will never be like my father. I will be a successful, strong man and intend to keep face and be calm in any situation. Seeking confirmation and scripted behavior: The boy reads books about heroes, goes to the gym, doing strength exercises. The ideal is a courageous, strong man. Favorite sayings: “men don’t cry” and “anger is a sign of weakness.” As a manager, she endures stressful situations at work by gritting her teeth. Doesn't like to rest. Very stiff, tense and inflexible in movements. By the age of 40 he suffers his first heart attack. He admires the famous workaholics of our time. Give examples of your early scenario solutions according to the proposed scheme in the comments, ask questions to the author of the blog,.