In the psyche there is one mechanism that we constantly use, but do not notice. It turns on when something does not suit us............... .............................................This mechanism is called suspension. ........................................................ .......I'll give you an example................................................... ........................................................ ........ Have you ever left at least once during a quarrel, loudly slamming the door? By the way, this helps. Usually, after a few minutes, emotions cool down, and no one wants to continue the conflict. This pattern can be repeated over and over again. This is a clear example of detachment. So is it bad or not? The conflict is over, which means it works. The problem is that the conflict has not been resolved. The resentment remains and will imperceptibly destroy the relationship.................................................... ........................................................ .Detachment may be hidden behind: Boredom, apathy, Reluctance to do anything, Forgetting, Procrastination, Physical withdrawal from the problem, Obsessive desires... .......................... ........................................................ ........................................................ ...Detachment appears to protect us from unpleasant emotions when we are still very young. But for an adult it usually only gets in the way.................................................... ........................................................ ............................Strong feelings or needs are usually behind the withdrawal. Facing your emotions is scary, and your true needs are not always obvious. It is much easier to give up on everything or replace real problems with momentary desires. It is important to remember that withdrawal does NOT help overcome discomfort, but only hides it for a while. Later, it will make itself felt with renewed vigor. The work strategy is as follows: We notice a detachment, look for a real conflict, resolve it PS During the period of self-isolation, I offer free consultations, details upon contact. I will be glad to see you on my blog VK: INSTGR_LINKInstagram*: INSTGR_LINKMy publications: https://www.b17.ru/articles/shushkova/Sign up for a consultation: WhatsApp 89818752847 or via the website https://www.b17.ru/zayavka.php?mod=psiholog&id=439590* Instagram belongs to the company Meta, which is recognized as extremist organization in Russia.