From the author: In addition to the previous article on choosing a specialist. As a recommendation for choosing a psychologist, ideas are often expressed that a psychologist should be chosen with the heart, B In this article I would like to take a closer look at this selection criterion. The recommendation to “choose with your heart” is indeed given both by people who are not particularly knowledgeable and by high-status, respected specialists. On this basis, this recommendation can be considered quite competent. But what will we discover if we investigate whether this is the same advice from different people, or is there some difference? We will find that there really is a difference and this is what it is: Ignorant people (although, of course, well-intentioned ones) put into the advice to “choose with your heart”, first of all, an intuitive idea of ​​​​the healing of the emotional-sensory component of psychotherapy, and they are right in this. However, respected specialists in the professional community by default consider in the context of this recommendation only the circle of psychologists who can use this valuable tool for the benefit of the client (a tool for building healing relationships, because they heal, as well as injure, relationships of a special quality). Such specialists will work for his benefit, avoiding therapeutic provocations and the temptation to “get treatment for him” themselves. That is, once again in other words: authoritative recommenders of this approach most often consider options for choosing from psychologists who, in principle, are capable of benefiting the client with effective targeted work and are sufficiently competent and worked out so as not to cause harm. (The middle pole - a visit to a specialist with a zero result will be conditionally combined with the last one). This is where the difference lies between two identical pieces of advice “choose with your heart” and that’s why sometimes you come across stories where psychotherapy begins “for health” and ends “for peace.” In order to avoid such situations, it makes sense to first identify the circle of specialists in accordance with their reputation, the presence of good practical education and personal study, and only then “ask” your heart (preferably after personal meetings with “candidates”), to whom of this circle I would like to contact. It turns out that you need to choose with your heart after making sure of other factors, first of all, reputation and, at a minimum, the qualifications and personal development of the candidate for the role of your psychologist. You can read about this in the article: About choosing a psychologist (from personal experience and the experience of clients, colleagues and friends). That, in fact, is all about what to pay attention to when choosing a psychologist/psychotherapist with your heart. I hope this review helps you.