From the author: Body language. Facial expressions. Eyes. Face-to-face communication presupposes some intimacy and intimacy. No interference for people to understand each other. After all, the eyes are the mirror of the soul, and can tell us much more than words. Do you remember that A. Mehrabian rule about 55-38-7? Read more about it HERE. But in short, much more information is perceived “by eye” (55%), by ear (38%), and only a small part (7%) is actually informative, using the meaning of the words spoken. And, here , it has already been said hundred hundred times by all psychologists that the same word is perceived differently by different people, due to the phenomenon of causal attribution, projections of the speaker and listener, and other features of the psyche. You can understand the nuances of communication only if you comprehensively evaluate your interlocutor. Eye contact itself is extremely important if we are talking about personal communication, not telephone. Try to tell or explain something to a person who has literally turned his back on you. I foresee a sharp reaction: “What is this! Am I talking to the wall or something!” A lecturer may find himself in the same situation when the audience is hostile. When you can’t “catch” a single glance, not just an interested one, but not a single glance at all. They look at the walls, look at their phones, and look down. Introduced? Never again discuss important life matters in a car when one of you is driving. The “opposite eyes” in your communication can express sympathy, exercise control, regulate the order of communication, and provide information about your mood and intentions. If you ignore all these things, pushing your speech without taking into account the listener’s reaction, you can make a mess, as they say. Just take the direction of your gaze. Business negotiations are conducted, as a rule, between people looking approximately into each other's third eye. Friends - boyfriends and girlfriends lower their gaze lower, closer to their lips. And those who are interested in their interlocutor on a more intimate level, from time to time look at the throat. It even happens that he looks at the figure of the person he likes from head to toe. If the viewer is too immodest (that is, stares), some girls may feel that they are “undressed” with such a look. It is also customary to convey the word in a dialogue with a look. Usually the listener spends more time looking at the speaker, and here I can give an allusion to the “grouse on the lek.” Some of us are so “filled with speeches”, almost closing our eyes and so distracted, that we hardly notice the eyes opposite us asking for a word. A person bursting into speeches looks at the listener much less than the listener himself. This “rule” is not always true. A person holding a leadership position, or simply wanting to “gain psychological weight,” looks at the interlocutor most of the time during his own monologue. Remember your parents’ lectures to you or your school teacher’s reprimand for your behavior, and you will understand what I’m talking about. They suggest something to you when, during a conversation, the gaze is directed in your direction. It’s not that they’re staring at you; they don’t let go of your gaze. Well, or you do this unconsciously when you give instructions. And what happens before someone looks for you in order to give these same instructions that you need like “the ears of a dead donkey”? After a stern look, foreshadowing a specific attack, your own gaze begins to run from corner to corner, literally looking for a way out of an uncomfortable situation. “Where should I go?” A shifting gaze speaks of a person’s confusion, a desire to avoid conversation, and coupled with a pathetic, sour smile, it’s generally clear that the mentor is never welcome. The attempt to escape failed; I could have run away with my eyes, but there was nowhere to go. All that was left was to hide in the house. As in childhood. “Chick-chick, I’m in the house.” Close our eyes with our palms, “Peek-a-boo.” But we are adults... probably... I don’t know for sure, so we close our eyes not with our palms, but with our eyelids. We look at the floor, lower our head or gaze. Perhaps it’s out of shame, as is customary to judge a pubescent head, but sometimes it’s just for the sake of.