I often hear different opposing opinions about who should love more: a man a woman or, on the contrary, a woman a man. “A man is a hunter - he should always hunt a woman who escapes . Once a man catches a woman, he will lose interest in her. Therefore, it is important that a man loves a little more, and a woman allows herself to be loved.” And vice versa: “The woman is responsible for love in the family. The man is the breadwinner, and the woman is waiting for him at home and envelops him with love so that he can rest and go hunting for mammoth again.” Or like this: “A man and a woman should be equal partners. It is important to maintain a balance of give and take. Today I’ll give you breakfast in bed, tomorrow you’ll give me” My personal opinion, which is based on working with more than 1,000 married couples, is that strict rules, stereotypical divisions into hunters and keeper of the hearth give rise to many expectations regarding what and how it should be in a relationship. As a result, two loving people become hostages of such expectations. Many fears arise, including the fear of leaving the invented role model. Fear of not giving and fear of not receiving. Fear of breaking the stereotypical pattern of behavior and being left with nothing, being abandoned, abandoned. Unfulfilled expectations lead to pain and suffering, as well as a loss of sincerity and naturalness in relationships. When sincerity is lost, relationships become boring and stop developing. And then a dispute begins over who DOESN’T love whom more. And it all started so romantic: “I love you,” “and I love you more,” “no, I love you more.” Relationships are a living substance. In one period, one partner loves more, in other periods - the other. If, for example, at some point a woman loves more than a man, this does not mean that the woman suffers and needs more from the man, but he does not give such and such she has the same amount of love. To love is to give love. When we give love, we are happy. If we want to earn love and manipulate love out of another person, we suffer. It’s normal to change roles and be on different waves and different degrees of love for each other. Any option is correct. The main criterion that everything is fine with love is a feeling of comfort. If I am now comfortable showing as much love as I give, and comfortable receiving as much as I receive, then we have an ideal balance at the moment. Tomorrow everything may be the other way around. And then the relationship will never be boring.