From the author: sexologist-psychotherapist, family psychologist. expert of television programs, member of the professional psychotherapeutic league, NLP master, best master, educational psychologist, specialist in the eastern version of neuroprogramming, specialist in personal well-being and family relationships, trainer, coach, esoteric psychotherapist. The author of more than 500 articles on a variety of problems, which you can see by looking at the *articles* section and, probably, this will already help solve your problem. The author of more than 100 training programs, as you can see by visiting my video channel on YouTube and typing “Afanasyeva Lilia” Who do you think is this character with whom they are fading away? - Husband. As sometimes happens, sex after seven years of marriage began to decline, and the wife’s sexual desire went away. The couple has a child growing up, and my client from Moscow does not plan to separate. But something needs to be done about what is happening in a couple in terms of sex, and here she is at my appointment as a family psychologist and sexologist. Quite recently, a couple had a major quarrel on this topic, where the husband accused his wife of anorgasmia and frigidity, and she accused him of problems with potency and problems with erection. The woman had something to compare with. She had several partners, and good sex. Then there was everything - experiments, passion, desire and orgasm. The husband was inferior compared to previous sexual partners in almost all respects. Unless he had charisma, that’s what he took. In general, he was a rather sociable fellow, and was considered a good husband (who did not know about the sexual problems in the couple). And they were - in addition to anorgasmia and frigidity in my client from Moscow, her husband had a pronounced syndrome of anxious failure, and general difficulties with potency and a very unstable erection. And according to the wife: the husband’s semi-flaccid dignity did not arouse sexual interest and desire, and contributed to a general decrease in libido, as well as female sexual problems of anorgasmia and frigidity. What can be done here and how to help? - Let me note right away that we have discussed possible ways out of this situation, and now my client from Moscow will have to think: which path she will choose and what she will decide to do. It is worth considering what sexologists, psychotherapists, and family psychologists primarily pay attention to - this is the sexual constitution of a man. Most often, it will form the basis of a man’s sexual behavior. Here, apparently, she was weak. There was no great need for sex, plus the appearance of the spouse (overweight and effeminate figure) did not imply much mobility in sex. Namely, this, plus sexual experiments, interested the wife. Next, she put on beautiful lingerie, tried to somehow excite her husband, but he reacted completely differently than she wanted, and to her elegant, sexy appearance he often said: “You’re dressed up, take off your clothes.” Here it is worth considering what your spouse’s mother was like. Most often, a man chooses a woman to match his mother. Here she was simple, as they say: in curlers and a robe, very homely. It can probably be assumed that a man's sexual preferences will be quite simple. He will not be a gourmet or a connoisseur of elegant or wild sex. Although, of course, everything is individual. And indeed, everything here was primitive. I, as a sexologist, psychotherapist and psychologist, explained to the girl that she should not take his low mobility in sex upon herself, lowering her self-esteem and thinking that she is somehow different. As often happens with women. And the best option would be to come to sexual marital therapy, so that I can give an outside view of the situation, neutral, probably more correct, and correct the behavior of the spouses in sex. Because, I explained to the woman that there are quite big differences in male and female psychology and vision of sex. Here, certain secrets are hidden, known to experienced sexologists, psychotherapists, and family psychologists. So how.