I read one text and remembered teenagers at consultations. Often they come because their parents brought them, because at some point it became too difficult. What suddenly changed? The time of adolescence is when you want to be a unit autonomous from your parents, so the easiest way is to do everything differently than them. Mom mentioned her grandchildren? I will never have children! Don't like your classmate's hair color? Please make me stronger and stick some piercings in! In general, maximalism of all holes 😅 What should a parent do? 🍫 Remain calm - in a couple of months or years this will definitely pass, but the more and more emotionally the parent reacts, the more likely the crisis will drag on. 🤗 Maintain closeness - squeeze the child (but see that he is pleased, and what is no longer), accept his decisions and choices, listen to what he says and be interested in his life, and also talk about his own😎 Maintain adequacy - talk and teach the child the natural consequences of his actions, explain that rights also have responsibilities ( if you want to go with an overnight stay, then write more often, don’t be late for school, if you violated, then you deserve trust).😌 Maintain respect. The parent forgets that adolescence is a time of crisis, when the child learns to take responsibility, but how and where to take it? Take some of it away from your parents, and it can be very difficult for them to part with the burden they have been carrying for 10-15 years and problems begin. Therefore, it would be good for a parent to remember the tasks of this age and take seriously the task of completing these tasks, without forbidding the child too much, and being understanding of the child’s new and acute feelings. It seems to me that it’s especially important about feelings, because parents often devalue what is happening in the child’s soul, “just think, first love, there will be a line of more like them.” Of course this is the wrong approach! All the child’s feelings are important, you need to teach them to live and withstand them correctly. The most difficult thing for parents is to maintain self-confidence. A child can actively sabotage his parents, devalue them, resist, push them away - and it is at this moment that you need to remember your love for this hedgehog, remember that the parent remains “good enough” despite this difficult period.