When a person points a finger at someone, he must remember that at this time four other fingers are pointing at him. Louis Nitzer. “Madam, you are looking very suspiciously... and what is that dark thing behind your back: not horns and hooves? Wow...how intimidating and powerful you are, I'm afraid of you...Why did you raise your hand? Do you want to hit? For what? I will feel guilty and correct myself, I will be comfortable and obedient... or I will defend myself until the last breath, until the last heartbeat, just to survive, just to survive, but at the same time I will still feel guilty..." And Madame is just sitting on the chair . He just sits, doesn’t attack, doesn’t accuse, but just looks into the distance... But the energy of protection from the terrible Madame can be so strong that the chair can fly out from under the Madame, and she will fall - still wondering, what’s going on? Here’s a sketch. It’s time to wipe off your glasses and other optical instruments, gather courage and look deep into yourself. A little about the essence of the issue. The process of assigning to other people your unconscious feelings or parts of your personality is called “Projection.” The structure of a person’s personality is heterogeneous. It is filled with a huge number of different parts - “Subpersonalities”, which were formed in a person in the process of his personal development. And not all of these parts and the feelings associated with them suit their “Owner”. To be loved, accepted, important, significant - you need to hide it deeply into the subconscious everything that is condemned and not accepted by micro and macro society: the parental family and society as a whole. And where to put the intrapsychic energy associated with these split-off parts of the personality? Look, you can put it in Madame, but why not? It’s good to sit on a chair! Madame is sitting, but the truth is that “Frightening” and “Frightened”, and “Guilty” and “Accuser” are parts of one personality! And to experience such familiar, such familiar fear or guilt , a person must give a piece of his personality (usually a frightening and accusing inner parent) to another person in order to feel all the “delights of life” in contact with him, a subconscious request to experience his basic emotions (each person has their own). And in this situation two options - either return this split-off monster to yourself and begin to negotiate with it within your personality, or unconsciously continue to be afraid, feel guilty, defend yourself, attack, and again in a circle and all your life.