Let me remind you of some postulates on grief. Unexperienced grief will leave an imprint on the rest of your life. Grief is not lived alone! No child, without special support, can survive grief. Speaking about loss, the need to correctly to go through the grieving process, it is important to note the following. When a person says that he has little energy, apathy, and a lack of life goals, then you can focus on this: - Where do you get strength for life if you need it to restrain different feelings: sadness, melancholy, guilt, powerlessness and helplessness, anger, and if a loved one died from suicide, then rejection....(you can keep suicide in mind, you don’t have to talk about it right away). All this is blocked by different views on death (other loss) , ways to cope with feelings, family traditions and family rejection of grief. This means that, for example, a grieving wife annoys her husband. And then it blocks feelings. If a person wants to solve the problems of grief for himself, but it’s difficult for him, the therapist should ask the question: “What is needed from me so that we can move there!?” Let me remind you of these four tasks. You can read about them in detail here: Tasks of the grieving process: 1. Recognition of the fact of the irreversibility of the loss (he died and this is forever, we will not meet, we will not see each other, he will not return) Check what they cannot accept: The facts of the loss are denied, Its irreversibility, Meaning loss 2. Experiencing all the feelings associated with loss (for this, special containment and channeling techniques are used, and not just talking to a psychologist) 3. Adjusting those areas of life that are “broken” as a result of the death (divorce) of a loved one.4. Placing the energy previously associated with the deceased (departed) into the new. Relationships, activities, etc. When a person comes with acute or complicated grief (it can be different), / Complicated - for simplicity I will say - this is one that lasts more than a year. For many years.../ then a specialist needs to diagnose what problem a person needs to help solve. Or which one he is “stuck” on. There is an exercise that our NSU teacher N.V. Kuznetsova shared. The exercise is diagnostic. The office space is divided into two parts with ropes. The client is asked to place a chair for the image of the deceased in any space. Offer to take the place in which he himself is located. Here you can see and hear a lot of different things. Alternatively, a person stands in a different space from the image, but cannot stay there for long and goes to the deceased loved one. Here he begins to recognize that he was “not released.” Before this, a person may say: “I know that he died!” I note that maybe he really knows (cognitively), but has not separated emotionally. Space helps to realize this. Next, we work with meanings, ideas, fears - why “not let go.” I’ll note that there are setbacks, sometimes a person recognizes the irreversibility of the loss, and then again some experiences will again bring him to this point for a short time. Let’s work further... Here I’ll also add that before you start working with grief, you need to teach the person diaphragmatic breathing. It helps in different ways, in this case, so that there is a quick way to return from experiences to reality. And to understand what is happening now. The process of experiencing grief and loss follows. Let me remind you that loss is not only the death of a loved one. These are breakups, betrayals, divorces, sudden serious illnesses, etc. With respect to you, Elena Kislova.