We are talking here about love addiction, and about psychological, social, and in some cases, material, housing. It’s one thing when a person is, in principle, prone to addiction or codependency. When, without being cured and without gaining stability after a previous relationship, he consciously or unconsciously dives into a new addiction. But, if you analyze many stories of relationships with psychopaths and narcissists, you can see that those who are different psychologically fall into a painful dependence on these destructive partners. maturity, who has not previously had such a relationship. Let's figure out how destructive partners manage to introduce a fully mature and consciously living partner into a state of dependence on themselves? 1) Gaslighting The partner is methodically taught that he is weak, inadequate and cannot cope on his own. 2) Infantilization of the partner Psychopath or the narcissist gradually wedges himself into different areas of his partner’s life. “Intercepts” key channels, be it communication, finance, interaction with the environment, and so on. 3) Lowering his/her self-esteem Eternal criticism, unreasonable ignorance, ridicule, comparison with others. This does not pass without a trace. 4) Programming A person is clearly told that he cannot cope with the demon of his destructive partner. That this particular partner is his destiny, he must hold on to him and must endure everything. 5) Stifling control A person lives as if under a hood. The destructive partner controls his plans, his movements, his contacts. 6) Distancing him/her from the resource environment Someone is deliberately quarreled. For some there is a portion of slander. They give someone a strict ultimatum. 7) Imposition of roles A person is labeled and assigned a role. And they make it clear that either he is perceived in this role, or not at all. His personality is not taken into account.8) TrainingIf you behave well, you have the “sugar” in the form of normal communication. If you deviate from the given script, there will be punishment.9) Gradually depriving the partner of his resourcesThey can carefully and quietly appropriate his/her resources “piece by piece”. They can openly demand, threatening separation or something else. When a person is systematically influenced in this way day after day, he begins to feel weaker. Artificially grows the figure of a psychopath or narcissist in his mind. And at some point, he himself no longer notices how he fell into a state of love addiction. Vera Bokareva, psychologist, psychotherapist, doctor of science. Sign up for an online consultation: WhatsApp / Viber / Telegram: +7-963-231- 37-12 / verabo.ru