Continuing the topic of constructive dialogue, we can analyze the interaction patterns of the interlocutors in accordance with the purpose of the conversation. Until recently, for me, constructive dialogue was aimed at understanding, attention and interaction on equal terms. But as practice shows, each person has his own constructive and basis for interaction, while behavioral patterns vary greatly for the purpose of interaction. My consultations are based on clarification, expansion concepts, considering the structure of interaction from different sides: sensations, states and feelings. Experiences are filled with images, drawings and objects. At the stage of acquaintance, the monologue takes on the outlines of forming a dialogue using the delimitation of the concepts of yours - mine - ours and the “eviction” from the office of other people who are trying to squeeze through and fill the space between the client and the psychologist/psychotherapist. Thus , it turns out that a person “brings” (through a story) with him loved ones, acquaintances, friends, colleagues, employees and just stories from films and jokes, hiding and covering his personality behind the backs of strangers. There are situations when a psychologist gets involved in a game, following the client’s lead, he begins to interpret with vivid examples, parables, stories, stories, convincing the person of what is beneficial and convenient for him. As a result of the meeting, each instigator receives what he came with. Can the conversation be considered constructive? Does a constructive dialogue always end on a positive note? Thus, a constructive dialogue is aimed primarily at the interaction of the interlocutors, in which each of the participants will receive for themselves an important, valuable and useful experience from communication. When communicating in dialogue as equals, a person has the right to answer, clarify and ask questions for a better understanding of the compatibility of directions, being in the general topic of the dialogue. The ability to hear and listen for a person without feedback, an attentive and respectful attitude is the same as being at a lecture by a professor, listening to a monologue. Being in the pole of a constructive dialogue, a person learns a positive response from his own subconscious, freeing up energy for further interaction. In the event of the slightest shift towards destructiveness, the effectiveness of the conversation occurs at the moment of realizing the point of no return. In each dialogue, the emotions and feelings of the interlocutor determine the importance of instant reactions to subtle triggers of past years. The brighter and discomfort of her memory, the more constructive the manipulation and withdrawal of destructive communication through challenge and confrontation. In a constructive dialogue, a person instantly listens to the destructive and clarifies the points of no return, restoring respect and attention to the interlocutor in a series of clarifying phrases, identifying feelings. Clarifying questions are a “litmus test” for identifying points of no return and the best tactics for returning constructive communication. Constructive conversation tactics are based on the principles of mediation. Accordingly, based on the values, views and needs of the interlocutor, you can identify points of no return through the reaction of feelings and continue the conversation from the moment of paraphrasing or choosing an acceptable strategy of behavior during constructive communication. A timely reaction aimed at compromise or cooperation is the key to success when building constructive relationships. The point of no return appears at the stage of adaptation to the interlocutor, when a person is ready to act in his own interests on favorable terms, but feelings contradict the decision made and begin to manifest themselves after a while in the form of destructive statements. Constructive dialogue can take place if there is mutual openness, trust, respect, and understanding of the participants microsocium. You can learn more about constructive dialogue at group meetings: Labyrinths of Communication. You can sign up for a consultation by personal message by clicking on “get a consultation” https://www.b17.ru/go_3hh or WhatsApp https://wa.me/message/ MNXMQTNXF2M2P1