The more a person has within himself, the less he expects from others. Irvin Yalom I am not a resource. Strength at zero. Apathy. Exhaustion. Burnout. I don’t want anything Whatever it is called, we are talking about the lack of internal resources. By internal resource I mean the presence of physical and mental strength to solve daily problems. The reason for this condition may be: - ineffective behavioral strategies. We are talking about the fact that a person performs any actions that (at best) do not bring the desired result. Another striking example is a situation where there is a certain problem. In an attempt to solve it, actions are taken over and over again that lead to the same result, which is undesirable. - environment. Communicating with people with whom you are not comfortable being in direct contact. Interaction with them leads to strong emotional costs. - hyper-responsibility. For your life, loved ones, husband, children, dog, cat, work and even the actions or inaction of your colleagues. - multitasking. - super control. Even those areas of life that are not under your control and do not depend on you. - lack of rest - lack of sleep Each of you may have your own reasons for the lack of internal resources. This can also include: - difficulties or conflicts at work - lack of mutual understanding in the family - experiencing your own age or personal crisis or a difficult period of growing up for a child Knowing the reasons for the depletion of internal resources makes it possible to search for the most suitable and effective methods for a particular person. To do this, you need to find out about the needs, interests, desires, about his past experience of experiencing similar experiences. Answers to the following questions will help with this: 1. What do I really want? At least 10, and ideally 100 or more of my “want”. What you have wanted for a long time, but have been putting off or seem unimportant or frivolous, throw away all the imposed stereotypes and leave what you want. 2. What usually helps you regain your strength and brings you real pleasure. Bath, shower, meditation, walks, sports, reading, pleasant calm or energetic music, dance, visiting exhibitions, theater, concert, time with yourself, friends, hobbies and so on . The bigger, the better. 3. Compare these lists. What do you notice? What conclusions can you draw? 4. Which of the following can you do now? Over the next day? Weeks? Months? Quarter?5. What requires only your participation, and in what moments you need the help of other people. 6. Who can help you get out of the state you are in now? Can you turn to this person for help? What stops or prevents you from doing this? 7. What can you do to help yourself? How to take care of yourself? Without delay, now. Answers to the questions asked will help you see the direction of movement on the path to restoring internal resources and determine specific steps towards your goal. Success in this matter will depend on the active actions that you take. Harmonious state and mental balance. Psychologist, Alla Naginailo.