The relationship is long over, but one partner continues to diligently keep an eye on the other partner's life. And it doesn’t matter how harmonious or destructive the relationship was and how it ended, good or bad. Most people follow the life of their ex-partner. They learn various information from mutual friends, monitor social networks, and collect gossip. Many people are concerned about a reasonable question: Why are my exes watching me? What can be done to stop this? And some exes themselves suffer from the fact that they cannot stop following. “I’m following my ex! I’m following my ex! But I can’t do anything with myself,” they say. Why do exes follow and monitor social networks? A person is a sensual-emotional being. Emotions experienced at certain moments in life literally create programs in a person’s mind. This is especially true for codependent relationships in which partners lose their self-sufficiency. When breaking up, one or both partners lack the emotions that they experienced when interacting with each other. And it doesn’t matter what kind of emotions they were, positive or negative. They left their mark. Emotional charges remain. And surveillance is an attempt to get the same energy, to get what they couldn’t in communication. It is worth saying that there is a certain proportion of cases of manifestation of normal human interest. This happens if the partners are mature people with normal psyche and thinking. They simply decide on a new relationship format and stick to it. But this share is small. What to do if you cannot stop following your ex-man or ex-girlfriend. The way out and the algorithm of actions is as follows: You need to understand that past relationships were in the past. Constantly returning there takes a colossal amount of energy from you. Living in the present is much more effective. We dismantle old negative thinking programs and create new ones. Emotional charges that were created in past relationships must be removed. There are a number of proven practices for this. One of them is the technique of recapitulating past events. Recommendations for its implementation can be viewed in the video instructions: Our friend is the SUBCONSCIOUS CONSCIOUSNESS. TECHNIQUE FOR REVIEWING EVENTS FROM THE PAST What to do if an ex-man or ex-girlfriend is watching you. Everything is a little easier here. Additional awareness of the negative impact of being in the past is not necessary. You can write a letter to your ex-partner thanking you for that stage of your life. It is not necessary to send. And adding the technique of recapitulating past events will also not hurt. Well, and of course, working with a psychologist will be very effective in such situations. Dear exes, understand that by realizing the ineffectiveness of being in the past, and using the recommendations offered, you can start your a new effective life! With care and support, your psychologist and mentor Svetlana Averina