Hello! There are two sides to marriage. One is called having a husband, and the other is called being a wife. They are qualitatively different. Having a husband is using him as a function. Like, she bought it, now let him love it. Liability is minimal. He loves it badly - threaten with replacement. Still doesn't like it well - replace it. The acquired husband must. All. Dot. MUST. And what everyone should determine according to their needs. Can not manage? Well, you know what to do. At a certain age, such a model has a right to exist. This is the age when we want to have everything. A picture, a basket, a cardboard, a husband, children. We want to have everyone. And at the same time, we think little: “What should I be like to have all this?” But the age of “having” ends (according to my feelings, by the age of 30) and now, in order to be in a relationship, you have to be someone. If we want to continue relationships that were originally built on consumer principles, we need to grow into being. If we want to build new relationships, we must again give up the desire to possess. Being a wife is an internal state. This is a way of thinking, an attitude towards a man and towards life in a certain way. It's a state of mind. And here's the rub. To be a wife you must first learn to be yourself. Determine yourself, hatch, separate, understand where “I” is and where “not-I” is, what you want, what you need. To understand, do you have to be someone’s wife? To avoid using your partner as a prop for your own self-importance. In order not to dissolve in your partner. To love, and not to use. I come up with this analogy: a child first uses his mother, then learns to say “I” and separates from her, and then decides who he should be (an astronaut, a ballerina, a fireman). But learning to be himself is not very good. nice job. I would even say unpleasant. But the fruits of such work are very tempting. If you are ready to start it, this is the place for you. Sincerely, Yulia Minakova.