What happened in Crocus City Hall is difficult for even adults to deal with emotionally. What can we say about children? Despite the fact that the children's psyche is considered more adaptive, children are able to fantasize and invent things that they do not understand or do not know. Children are also sensitive to our emotional state. Some parents believe that difficult conversations can cause anxiety and distress in their child and try to avoid discussing traumatic events. However, it is emergency situations (terrorist attacks, death) that cause concern, and not the conversations about them themselves. Remember that the task of parents is to give children a feeling of safety and security. Therefore, we need to talk. You should speak honestly, in an accessible language, taking into account the age of the child. It is better not to let small children know what happened. However, if a child finds out about the tragedy, then answer all his questions, do not brush it off. Children could learn about the terrorist attack themselves from their peers, and in passing see the news that you watch; older children could see it from the Internet. Some, especially teenagers, may not show their feelings, and you may assume that the child is fine. And yet it is worth asking what he knows, what he feels. Invite conversation by asking open-ended questions: “How are you feeling?”, “What would you like to know, discuss?” Some children will want to talk, and some will not. Both reactions are normal. Don't force it if the child doesn't want to talk. Let him know that you are available to answer questions and listen to him whenever he wants, while continuing to monitor his condition. If there is a disturbance in sleep, eating, or unusual behavior, tell your child that this worries you and again offer to talk. If these disturbances continue and interfere with daily activities, consult a pediatrician (general practitioner) or neurologist with your child. When a child is ready to talk, it is important to be in a calm state, not without emotions, but in control of them. If you can’t control your emotions, this is also possible, find the strength to apologize: “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to scare you.” Provide a safe space for the child to express his thoughts and emotions. Let him guide the conversation, listen to his concerns, fears, respond to emotions (“Yes, it looks like you’re really scared...”), answer questions. If you don’t know the answers, just answer: “I don’t know, but I’m with you, and we’re safe.” You can reason and find the answer together. Don’t give unnecessary information, don’t indulge in general discussions about terrorism. Be specific. For example: there was an explosion, it was a terrorist attack, people died, but most were saved, I’m with you, we’re safe. Children, just like adults, can ask rhetorical questions that do not require an answer; sometimes they just need someone who will share their emotions with them. Please support. “Yes, I was scared too, I sympathize...” be prepared for questions about death when discussing terrorism and answer these questions honestly and taking into account the child’s age. Ask about concerns and provide reassurance by focusing on ways to manage anxiety rather than reassuring your child that their worries are unfounded. Discuss what measures are being taken to ensure our safety. If a child is choking with tears, let him cry. Forget that boys don't cry (or you're already an adult). Tears are the most adaptive and safe reaction to severe stress. It is better for a child to cry in loving hands, hug him or stroke his back. A feeling of support, security and safety is what is required of you now. With adult children, it’s time to talk about the rules that should be followed in an emergency: in case of panic in a crowd, in case of a fire, etc. Let the thought that if you act according to the rules recommended by the Ministry of Emergency Situations, you will stay alive, be in the child’s head. Give examples of teenage cloakroom attendants who followed instructions, saved themselves and led other people out of the building. Of course, you and I understand that no one