From the author: Recently, while working with a client, we came across her fear of her own aggression. There is such an attitude that a good girl should not be angry. Otherwise they won't love her. Moreover, girls’ passion for Vedic knowledge helps to strengthen the position that aggression is bad. Then the topic of not accepting one’s aggressive part surfaced in the context of domestic violence and a man’s aggressive behavior. And I decided to cover it in more detail. So, let's go! What is it and why is it needed. Recently, while working with a client, we came across her fear of her own aggression. There is such an attitude that a good girl should not be angry. Otherwise they won't love her. Moreover, girls’ passion for Vedic knowledge helps to strengthen the position that aggression is bad. Then the topic of not accepting one’s aggressive part surfaced in the context of domestic violence and a man’s aggressive behavior. And I decided to cover it in more detail. So, let's go! When we say “aggressive person,” we mean a dangerous person who can be rude and hit. This is a person who is scary to be around. In general, it’s better to stay away from him. Meanwhile, aggression is the energy of life! The energy that moves us forward. This is any human activity. Essentially, if I address another person, I am already showing aggression. Or if I bite off an apple, I also show aggression. The word “aggression” is translated as “to go towards, approach” - that is, to move towards something, make an effort and invest energy in order to get something, take it, change it somehow the environment so that it would be “edible” and interesting to me. That is, aggression is the energy with which we interact with the environment. It turns out that if a person has a lot of vital energy, then he will be aggressive. Because he has the strength to move forward and interact with the world. We need aggression in order to achieve something from someone, to communicate, to present ourselves to the world. To take something from people and give something to people, aggression is also needed. To work successfully and advance in your career you need aggression. Aggressive energy underlies the ability to choose and reject something. She is also responsible for spontaneity. To have sex you need aggression. And to love, you also need this energy. When we eat, we show aggression. Satisfaction of every need occurs through aggression. Even to show tenderness and affection, aggression is needed! At the same time, a feeling of irritation helps to understand that there is some kind of need that is not satisfied. Those. I want something, but I can’t get it yet. Often people suppress their aggressive part. Stop their desires. Now I’m not talking about socially unacceptable desires and aspirations. I'm talking about insensitivity to yourself and the idea that you have to be good. The basis of life for others is to suppress one’s aggression and ignore one’s needs. For example, when a person forbids himself to rejoice, he stops the manifestation of delight. Or, for example, he doesn’t go to communicate with a person who is interesting to him. Some even manage not to notice that they are hungry. This all speaks of stopped needs. And what happens to the energy then? It remains in the body and soul. It goes from being directed outward to being directed inside the body. And if you suppress it for a long time, then sooner or later it will still break through in the form of passion. In the form of uncontrollable outbursts of anger. Moreover, it often happens that this uncontrollable anger goes to someone who has nothing to do with it. For example, we lash out at children. Or on our partners. It happens that we don’t break down and gradually sink into depression. The other side of aggression is depression. Those. a state of frozenness, lifelessness, lack of energy and desires. The state of apathy, boredom and “I don’t know what I want” comes from the same place. For example, when they tell me about depression, the first thing I look for is where aggression was suppressed. A sea of ​​psychosomatic diseases arises due to!"