There are people who are afraid to take responsibility. This is largely due to the fact that they do not see the difference between responsibility and guilt, a sense of duty. Usually, this becomes a consequence of upbringing, during which the child is constantly instilled with a model in which he receives punishment for doing something differently than the parents wanted. And this is precisely what parents call responsibility. Sometimes children grow up in such a destructive family that they take on all kinds of responsibility themselves. This often happens in families of alcoholics, drug addicts, and seriously ill people. In such families, children begin to save their parents, as it were. As a result, people grow up with the attitude that responsibility is either in principle unbearable and must be avoided, or is always necessarily associated with punishment. The main thing here is to understand in time that when you have grown up, you can stop punishing yourself. Heavy, destructive responsibility is a responsibility that you bear because you allegedly owe something to someone. You owe your parents for paid tuition, so you work at a job you don’t like. The unloved spouse must continue to live with him simply because they once made the corresponding vows. In essence, this is a form of living out of fear. No matter what you imagine. And in this form of life, you spread your failures over your entire personality. You accept the belief that “the way you handle a task is who you are.” There is another interesting point. Essentially, we are talking about making mistakes for which we are responsible. Just how applicable is the word “mistake” to what we do? When a person makes a decision that others don’t like, it’s usually just a decision that is inconvenient for others, but ultimately convenient for the person himself. No one has ever actually left an abuser or an unloved job. But many people have gone towards new love, freedom and self-realization. This is a story about stopping choosing others and finally starting choosing yourself..