Dad and mom are the first main people through whom we experience the world.⠀This is the cast that remains in our subconscious, the standard that we will automatically be equal to, check against he has his own inner compass.⠀When a child is small, he perceives what is happening quite one-sidedly (that is, he does not see the whole picture), he only records what is aimed at him. And this is normal, because a child’s consciousness is still immature and the child believes that he is the reason for everything in this world.⠀This is how the first impression of parents is formed. This is how the image of dad and mom is born in the head, which will influence the rest of life, in particular on building relationships with men.⠀For a harmonious life, it is important that this image be passed through an adult filter and released.⠀This is how we free our lives from children's grievances, expectations, claims - figuratively speaking, we remove negative filters from our perception. Thus, we transform our original cast.⠀What happens when a child’s photograph of mom and dad is not revised?⠀Imagine you have a certain template by which you described your father through children’s eyes. For example, that dad is a tyrant and a drunkard who abandoned me, or dad is soft and obedient, or dad is irresponsible, or all together.⠀Then, in adult life, when you choose a partner, you UNCONSCIOUSLY choose those who fit into this description. There is an option when the choice is made from the contrary (anti-scenario), which also carries certain consequences.⠀ If the image is negative, you will not perceive healthy, strong men. You will literally bypass them, and your hormonal system will never respond to a candidate outside your template. This is your choice limiter. It’s as if from the entire palette of colors you choose only green, for example. And over time, it may even seem that the only way to live is “green”. When processing children's experiences, there is no need to change or yank REAL parents. It is important to change your inner feeling, your attitude towards what happened in the past. After all, we don’t have the power to change the past or our parents, and therefore all attempts to prove something to living parents, demand love from them, expect that they will finally love, appreciate, hug - there is no point.