A lot of things happen to us. For different reasons. The reasons are different, but we are used to attributing everything either to ourselves or to something around us. Blame ourselves or others? In what cases how? How strong? Is there any blame at all? Let's think about it. First, I want to share some of my feelings. When someone next to me says that he and only he is to blame for everything that happens in his life, I feel very sad and sorry for this person. “What It’s cruel to blame yourself for all the troubles, what a heavy burden that must be.” I would like to immediately suggest that a person forget about the whole world and pay attention to himself, on the other hand, on the positive side, to allow himself to be guilty of something and not of something. In a situation where a person constantly blames others, I generally feel , to put it mildly, disgusting. Because often even all sorts of incomprehensible things are attributed to people, close people who are neither in sleep nor in spirit in this situation. This is about my feelings. Feelings as a person. A living person who is faced with certain situations. I think it is important to note here that at this moment I do not consider myself a saint at all. I sinned with both at different periods of my life. And now I sin from time to time, when there are absolutely no resources to think or analyze what is happening. However, there is one “but” that a specialist psychologist or any other person with a certain amount of experience gradually begins to understand. Blaming only oneself is very harmful for one’s own state and is not always logical. Blaming only others is no less harmful for one’s state, but it is also harmful for relationships with others and for an adequate perception of what is happening. What is useful? Of course, there is a golden mean, dear friends. At some moments it is very right to blame yourself if you are really to blame. This will be both an experience and an incentive for growth. Some things can be blamed on others. Because there really are situations when we are not responsible for what happened. There are also often situations when several people contributed to what was happening. This can be understood by analyzing what happened, stop blaming yourself, others, and try to discuss what happened. These are the thoughts on this topic that came to me today. What do you think about who, how and what should be blamed for the circumstances that occurred? And is there any need to blame at all??:)