During the holidays we spend a lot of time with our family. What happiness this is! Be with family and friends. To have fun. Enjoy intimacy. Be yourself and don’t adapt to anyone. Do not rush. Don’t twitch and don’t get on your nerves! BUT this doesn’t always happen and not for everyone, unfortunately! Sometimes a long stay with loved ones and relatives causes tension, quarrels, showdowns, showdowns, scandals, and even assault, especially against the backdrop of copious libations drinks and gluttony. Why does this happen? Why do loved ones hurt us more? It would seem that relatives should experience happiness from spending time together, but in reality the opposite happens. To understand the cause of scandals, let's understand WHY WE ARE CREATING A FAMILY AT ALL!? Man is a social, gregarious creature. It’s normal to be alone for some time, but over time a person realizes that he needs connection! In a reliable, secure connection with another person. With a person with whom you can build a relationship of trust, responsiveness, concern and sincerity. Everyone needs a person to whom we can become attached and who would become attached to us. A man and a woman are surprisingly drawn to each other. You can call it love, passion, maybe the instinct of reproduction. All together, this creates conditions under which people start families and have children. Over time, passion fades away, and in its place comes a calm, stable attachment based on knowledge of the partner and trust. Love is beautiful. She inspires. Showdowns and scandals, however, remain a harsh reality. So! Why do we fight? Observing my family, my parents, the families of friends, acquaintances, clients, every time I am surprised that spouses talk very, very little to each other. And even if they talk, they don’t listen or hear at all. As a result, due to a simple error in communication, misunderstanding, resentment and, ultimately, a scandal arise! PS: We are scandalous because: 1. We don't talk to each other.2. We don’t listen or hear each other. Friends, having a family is a great gift! Every insult, quarrel, misunderstanding puts a crack in the relationship. To continue to destroy your marriage or to stop the destruction is everyone’s personal CHOICE! Try it small! Start talking to each other, listening and hearing. Do you want to know how to not just listen to your partner, but to hear? Write, yes, in the comments. Family psychologist. Relationship problems in couples. Cheating, jealousy, coldness, misunderstanding. Short-term therapy for panic attack, phobia, anxiety, psychotrauma, trauma of violence, acute stressful situation. I accept in person in Kazan and online. Write: +79503117621