Start in the articles: Adult children of alcoholics 1-56 Read them in the selection Adult children of alcoholics and other difficult parents Part three. At work: self-sabotage syndrome. Chapter 18 ACA as an employee. As we all grow up, we form our own belief system. Part of the belief system is childhood myths. They were formed under the influence of messages received in the family. First they are played in the parents' house, then in the classroom, then in the workplace. If left unquestioned, they are played out in adulthood and confirm a person's self-image. If they can be dealt with (at first, the ACA is usually wary of attempts to doubt their myths), a person no longer needs to drag the burden of old problems with him. This article continues the list of popular myths. If something goes wrong - That's my fault. If everything goes well, then this is just the result of a successful combination of circumstances. In the parental family, the ACAs felt guilty even for what they were not responsible for. And they continue to automatically blame themselves for everything as adults. Including for mistakes and miscalculations of colleagues. Therefore, it is easy for the boss to entrust them with correcting other people’s mistakes and shortcomings. If everything goes well, they deny their contribution to the development of the situation, explaining their luck as a coincidence. And again - convenience for superiors - no reward for success is required. If I am asked for something, I must do it. The logic of the ACA is something like this: if I am asked, then it is important, if it is important, I must do it. Although, if you look from the outside, one does not necessarily imply the other. ACA needs to learn to understand which requests are appropriate and which are not. Being physically able to do something does not mean it is appropriate. Just because a person has been asked to do something does not mean that he "should." The right of choice remains with him - he can agree or refuse. I must be able to fix everything myself. ACAs take care of everyone in childhood and, growing up, continue to believe that they must settle everything if something goes wrong. As a result, other people take it for granted that ACA solves their problems. If the ACA themselves do not abandon this practice, their services will be used endlessly. If this is familiar to you, call 8-921-919-85-59, in person and online