Cultural myths influence unsatisfactory care in couples when partners believe in ideal models of relationships. Let's look at common myths: The myth of romantic love. Fantasies about ideal love, capable of healing and saving. Partners spontaneously show care and expect the same from their partner. It seems that if you are in love, then all your needs will be automatically satisfied. As couples move deeper into their marriage, they often become frustrated and face difficulties. Partners may find themselves insidiously competing with each other for crumbs of care. The myth of selfless love. There is an inner conviction that if love is given selflessly, without expectation of return, then it will be rewarded in abundance. Gradually, Resentment and a feeling of exploitation by others accumulate. It feels like the more you care and give to others, the more they expect. Your relationship with your partner feels like a bottomless pit of needs. The myth of your family as the source of all love. Many people consider a family consisting of spouses and children to be the only source of love and care. Expectations, often received from childhood, that one’s family will satisfy all needs and love needs. Often a child becomes a new hope for eternal love. Having your own family is wonderful! But it is not always possible to solve all problems and satisfy the needs for care. The myth of couple self-sufficiency. Spouses idealize their independence from their parents, their roots and connections to traditional forms. The couple presents themselves as self-sufficient, not in need of external help. With the birth of a child, the hassle increases, and the spouses sometimes cannot cope; short temper, fatigue, and depression arise due to the refusal of outside help. Trying to live in a marriage without being cared for is like driving a car without gas. Since childhood, spouses have become accustomed to denying their needs; their way of receiving love is to do everything themselves for praise. Why do people believe in myths and try to build relationships based on them? Unrealistic ideas about family and love arise in place of childhood disorder, lack of love and care, and lack of emotional support. The famous “prince on a white horse” is a reflection of a child’s fantasy of a romantic, ideal object capable of satisfying all needs and caring.