You are reading an article from a series of abstract articles. In my opinion, there are a number of books that are effective for self-help. They are generally understandable to a reader who is far from psychology. And yet, to start reading them, you need to make up your mind. Making a conscious choice not to read is also quite an option. But how to choose without opening the book? I decided that in this case it would be useful to get acquainted with the summary and main ideas of the book. And then everyone will decide for themselves. (My opinion or reasoning is indicated in parentheses with reference to E.Yu.) What are we reading today? Janet J. Voititz Adult children of alcoholics: Family Work Relationships. Start in the articles: Adult children of alcoholics 1-17Chapter 3. Breaking the Vicious Circle So, in previous articles, your characteristic traits were listed. What to do about it? Adult children of alcoholics are loyal even when this loyalty is undeserved. You are loyal to everyone you come into contact with in life. People benefit from having a relationship with you: you are responsive, honest and always try to do everything possible for a person. In addition, being afraid of being rejected, you do not reject anyone. To avoid becoming automatically loyal out of habit, it is useful not only to ask yourself the following questions: Why am I staying with this person and cannot give it all up? Think about what is happening in relationships now. It was good before - this is not a reason to continue the relationship. You need to go through difficult times in a relationship and then everything will work out - also a so-so idea. It is useful to ask yourself the question - what do I get in this situation? Who is this person for me? Think about it, are you often criticized? Do you often feel guilty? Sometimes when you start to increase distance, your partner makes you feel guilty by telling you how much he needs you. You can set a distance that is comfortable for you. You may be afraid to leave the relationship because you are afraid to be left alone. Learn to understand yourself, find pleasure in solitude - and you won’t be afraid of loneliness. If you give your partner more than he gives to you, you can thus maintain self-esteem. Self-esteem grows, and you become depleted. The main question to ask yourself is: Is this good for me? You don’t have to “jump in” - there are many options to choose from. First, evaluate: Who you are and what you want. If all this is familiar to you and you can’t handle it on your own, call 8-921-919-85-59, I work in person and online