So, a person lives for himself, lives and bam, I remembered something, I wanted to cry from these memories - this is the pain that lives with you and must be lived through. If you don’t express it, then it will continue to emerge every time until you live it and realize why it is so important to you, do not express those emotions that are stuck inside. The more you talk about this situation, express emotions in the form of tears, laughter, realize that before this was not conscious, the less pain you feel, the forces that were previously spent on containing pain are released, psychosomatic diseases go away. Why do people ignore pain? Because many of us have been taught that complaining and whining is bad, especially emotionally repressed people like to talk about this, they were once forbidden to express emotions, therefore, when they see other people’s emotional manifestations, they also want to express, share, but they ban... so they forbid you, such people are most often ashamed of their own feelings. There is no shame in showing emotions, for example, tears - this is a natural mechanism inherent in us from birth, it helps relieve tension, eliminate pain, since the body uses this function, it means the body needs it to feel comfortable. When experiencing pain, ask yourself what feelings you are experiencing at this moment, this is how you show your psyche that your feelings are not indifferent to you, you noticed them and reacted, realized them, lived, what you did not have time to live before or did not live because it was inappropriate moment. How do you understand that the pain has been lived and exhausted? When you talk about a past situation that was previously painful for you, you lived through it and only slight sadness remained, and your interlocutor’s eyes well up with tears, it means that the situation was really lived through by you, but was so serious that it evokes sympathy in another or your interlocutor has a similar one there’s a story with you and he didn’t “burn out” his pain. It’s not just that before, when a person died, people came to his relatives and asked what happened, and they told him, along with the story, emotions, pain and something was realized, then new people came and the process was repeated... this is how the person said goodbye to another person and “grieved out” his grief. Now about ways to express pain: physical activity, screaming, laughter, crying, story, song (this is how our ancestors sounded pain). By the way, watching a movie or going to the theater are very useful, since the situations that are shown there can remind you of your own and pull out pain, which will make you want to cry and have a heart-to-heart talk about your feelings over a cup of tea, so it’s nice if the person next to you he is ready to listen to you, and you trust him. Each method is good in its own way, the main thing is not to hush it up! It is better to do this with a psychologist, because the psychologist will help you get through the situation faster, ask the right questions, support you, and this situation will not become known to anyone else, because the principle of confidentiality in psychology is one of the main ones. You need to do the same with physical pain - sound it out, sing it out, cry it out, make fun of it, dance it out, so it will end faster. What ways of dealing with pain are closest to you and help you??