Many parents have probably heard, and some have even repeatedly used the phrase: “You need to share, are you greedy? It’s bad to be like this!” This phrase, as a rule, is addressed to your children, and it contains several messages at once: decree, edification, shame, indignation, reproach. Often such words on the part of the parent are due to social assessment from others, as well as parental fantasies about what their child “really” should. If you ask the children themselves, they do not always want to share and not as often as required parents. In order to ensure that this action does not develop into coercion and does not cause even greater reluctance not to do this on the part of the child, you should remember some circumstances: ✅ The right to choose. Let the child decide for himself who he is ready to share with and who he is not. Even at a very young age, children tend to determine who they like more and who they like less, and there is no need to try to prove them otherwise. It’s just his choice, he decided so;✅Gratitude. Try to notice and thank your child for trying to share, but do it better by expressing your attitude towards the action. For example: “thank you, I’m very pleased that you shared”, “I was very happy when you treated Misha to your sweets”;✅Special conditions. There are situations in which children are not ready to share under any circumstances (favorite and only toy, 1 most delicious candy, etc.). At this moment, insisting and shaming him for not sharing is akin to betrayal. The child’s joy from such a choice will definitely not increase, because: 1⃣he may remain good for you, but at the same time very sad that he had to give away something important that he didn’t want to give away at all; 2⃣or with joy for himself, but guilty and bad for you, which in the end will also lead to disappointment. You can also use the following techniques: 🔹put him more cookies with you, if you go to a company with children, then it’s enough to eat yourself and treat others. 🔸 pay your baby’s attention to other people’s reactions when he shared. For example, “Did you notice how Sasha smiled and how pleased she felt when you shared?” 🔹tell other family members about this good deed in front of your child, so that he can hear how pleasant, important and supported it is in the family.