IntroductionSometimes children face obstacles that they objectively cannot stand. Further, they fall into an emotional funnel, losing self-control. For example, a 2-3 year old child was playing with a mouse. After some time it dawned on him that she was a toy and not real. This hit him hard, and he began to cry uncontrollably. Or, for example, a 3-4 year old child wanted to walk a little more on the street, but he was called home. This makes him very angry, he begins to scream and hit his parents with his fists. Parents call such states childish hysterics. Not really understanding how to behave in such a situation with a child, sometimes they themselves lose their composure. And then, in response to the children’s screams, they shout to the child to stop, scold him and sometimes even beat him. From the inside it seems to them that they are teaching and raising a child, but from the outside it looks like the same hysteria, only of an adult. Thus, both children and adults alike can fall into hysterics - lose self-control and surrender to a whirlwind of emotions. The only difference is that that for children hysteria is an inevitable, normal stage of growing up. A child is captured by emotion not because he wants to piss off his parents or torment himself, but because he does not yet know how to react differently. An adult is captured by emotion because he has not learned to control himself during times of stress or frustration. Thus, psychologically, the adult in his emotional reaction remains at the level of the child. How to overcome a child’s hysteria?0. Let's not lose our composure. You need to be truly calm, and not appear so. And for this you need to learn to manage yourself under the influence of stressors.1. At the height of the hysteria, we can invite the child to feel sorry for him. The contact from hugs and verbal support will help the child feel not alone, it is partly reassuring. - I'm sorry you're upset. Go, I'll be sorry...2. When the emotion has subsided a little and the child can already listen to the information, we can tell him what happened to him (1) and how to cope with it (2). - You were angry because you weren’t given a toy. It really can be upsetting (1). But the rules are that it's Mark's toy and he doesn't have to give it to him if he doesn't want to. You can ask him later, or we can buy you the same one (2). - You were upset that your house made of cubes fell apart. I'm sorry (1). But you can build a new one. Try again, you will succeed (2). What to do when a child harms himself or others? If a child harms himself or another out of passion, he needs to be stopped from doing this harm and allowed to release the emotion safely. After this, you need to draw his attention to what just happened: How he felt What he did under the influence of this emotion Why it is not correct to behave this way How you can behave differently in such situations - It’s normal to be angry. But you can't hit people when you're upset. You can hurt someone like that. Next time you get angry, you can tap your feet or beat your pillow. Or come to me, tell me what upset you, and I will feel sorry for you. How does this help? When we do not lose our composure, we show the child by our example how to behave under stress. When we feel sorry for the child, we thereby share his grief . It’s as if we take part of this grief upon ourselves, on our shoulders. This makes the child feel better. And also, from us he learns to feel sorry and support himself on his own. When we explain to a child what happened to him, he learns to understand it himself. And over time, instead of screaming, he will say with the words: “I’m upset that...” When we explain to a child how to cope with his problem, we let him know that this is not the end. And over time, such difficulties begin to upset him less and less, because he already knows how to solve them. When we teach a child how to correctly express his emotions, he does not hide them or rage, but simply expresses them correctly. How to overcome an adult’s hysteria? Loss of self-control during standard everyday and life activities.