It seems to us that just yesterday a wonderful little man lived with us, whom we took care of, tried to give him maximum attention, shared with him all his victories and disappointments, and were inextricably linked 24 hours a day. And today this man has grown up and closed himself off from us. He is already completely different: aggressive, upset, “prickly.” He has his own world, his own friends, hobbies. We never stop loving him, but how difficult it is sometimes for us to understand each other and how difficult it is to find a common language.________________________________________________________________________________ “I can’t talk to him normally, he snaps all the time, let alone suggest that he go to a psychologist” “She needs It makes me laugh that I go to a psychologist, I can’t imagine how to invite her to come here” “What a psychologist, you can’t tear him away from the computer” ___________________________________________________________________ We often hear similar statements from concerned parents and guardians. The problems that parents face during the teenage crisis are completely different. Most often, conflict situations occur due to the reasons presented in the diagram of the requests of adolescents and their parents: Even if throughout the child’s life the family maintained a respectful attitude towards all its members, there was a favorable emotional background and you did not know any problems at all, perhaps now everything will change. It's hard for you. Him too. Psychological help at this stage of life is very important, and sometimes simply necessary. This is what your child is experiencing now: Active puberty and development Instability of the emotional sphere, a surge of emotions and sudden changes in mood Self-assertion of one’s independence Formation of self-esteem Manifestation of deviant forms of behavior Increased fatigue Self-awareness of one’s “I” Aversion to unreasonable prohibitions Reassessment of one’s capabilities How can you help a teenager? How to bring him to a psychologist's office? Most likely, your son or daughter will not be delighted with the idea of ​​​​going to a psychologist together. As teenagers, children will question the necessity and effectiveness of such a meeting. What to do? 1. Start the conversation about visiting a psychologist by defining the difference between a psychologist, a psychotherapist and a psychiatrist. It is important to convey to your child that you want to see a consultant not because you think he is abnormal. Tell him that you feel difficulties in your relationship and want to get an objective picture of what is happening in your family from a specialist. It will be honest to admit that it is difficult for you and you need outside help. 2. Explain to him that he definitely has the right to choose and he can refuse this idea. At the same time, it is worth clarifying that this is very important to you and you need his support. 3. Explain that you are afraid and doubt that you can tell the psychologist about your relationship without his participation. Point out to the child that his vision of the current situation is important. 4, Mention in the conversation that the psychologist is an independent person. A good specialist will not take anyone’s side and will not start “teaching life”. 5. Invite your child to choose a psychologist on their own. Let him try to find several specialists on the Internet whose appearance does not cause him anxiety and internal resistance. Today, on the website of every reputable psychological clinic or center there are photographs of employees. Later, you can check the qualifications of the consultant your child has chosen. In order for a teenager to agree to go with you to a meeting with a psychologist, you need to establish a trusting relationship with him. Very often, parents expect their children to rely on their authority and unquestioningly follow their parents' choices. At the same time, completely not trusting and not listening to your child. Try to remember that when children reach adolescence, they don't just change in appearance. They had their own opinion, their own view of the problems. Often it will be different from yours. What you.