I recently came across an interesting opinion: they say, marriage ruins everything. Let’s speculate. Firstly, what exactly is “everything”? Relationships? If so, then I think it all depends on how a particular couple feels about the very idea of ​​marriage. For some, it is a symbol, a promise, another declaration of their love. For others, it’s convenience from a legal point of view. Still others may regard marriage as a burdensome obligation, a restriction. How many people - so many options. It is important to understand what meaning we personally put into this event. If the initial idea of ​​marriage goes along with the mindset of a negative outcome, it probably will be. Not because it is some kind of magic, but because we ourselves can unconsciously behave in such a way that our worst assumptions begin to come true. Then “the stamp will ruin everything” and “the marriage will destroy everything.” The same thing happens when we attribute a positive meaning to marriage - this can positively affect relationships, make them stronger and more joyful, happier. Because, without noticing it, we will begin to make appropriate efforts. Secondly, in the modern world, marriage is a rather flexible thing. And it is unlikely that the registration of a union in itself, separately from the will of the person, can ruin or improve anything. If a couple is not able to cope with life’s difficulties, resolve emerging conflicts in a constructive way and hear each other, these problems will not go away with a stamp in the passport . Life, including family life, in any case involves changes: income jumps, the birth of children, joint renovations, moving and other important things - all this requires strength and the ability to negotiate, cooperate, create new and correct old forms of behavior. Don't think that a wedding is a happy ending. Ideally, it can be a happy beginning. However, there is another misconception: marriage will fix everything. When the relationship is already on the brink, when a snowball of insults and quarrels is pressing on the couple, you should not grab the thought of a wedding as a lifeline. Some people even manage to have children for the sole purpose of “fixing” their love. How reasonable does this sound? The situation with marriage in this regard is much simpler: once you get married, you get divorced. Still, it seems to me that it’s better to go from the inside to the outside, rather than trying to wrap up a shaky foundation in a beautiful finish.