We always face critical remarks addressed to us. Often criticism comes from those closest to us: mom, dad, husband, wife, partner, children, friends. In general, from those with whom you would not want to spoil your relationship. Therefore, today we are talking about how to respond to criticism adequately and without compromising self-respect.🔺When criticism is justified Criticism is always unpleasant for two reasons: - hearing comments is not much joy (but not disaster ☝🏻) - criticism is always unsolicited, and an uninvited guest is always unwanted. But still, there are times when a critical remark is issued on the case. In this case, there is a simple technique - Confession - You closed the door to the toilet again, and the cat was forced to shit on the rug !- Yes, you're right, I really closed the door to the toilet. It’s hard for me to get used to the fact that a cat now lives with us. What was done?▪️Consent - Yes, you’re right▪️Return the phrase - I actually closed the door to the toilet (to make it clear that the remark was heard correctly)▪️Explanation - why the person is so didNotice that this response to criticism lacks an apology. If you truly feel the need to apologize, do so. But remember that you are not obligated to ask for forgiveness, except perhaps from the cat who shit himself 😼 by your grace. Okay, in fairness, the one who cleaned up after the cat also deserves a couple of warm words from the series “I’ll be more attentive” or “I’m sorry that you had to clean up after the cat.” When it comes to apologizing, the most important thing is sincerity. What’s good about technology?▪️Immediately stops criticism▪️The critic is satisfied because he was recognized as being right▪️There is no point in making a scandal out of this🔺When criticism is partially justified This is a technique of partial agreement. It happens that our critics exaggerate or greatly generalize. This happens when people get angry and speak rashly. For example: - Damn, I returned from a business trip, tired, and the apartment is a complete mess! It was very unpleasant for me to return to this place after a tiring journey. You always neglect cleaning! - Yes, you're right, I really forgot to throw out the trash and wash the dishes. My week has been very busy. Do you want me to call the cleaning service? What was done?▪️acknowledgment of the situation - yes, you’re right▪️but only partially - I forgot to throw out the trash and wash the dishes▪️explanation - it was a hard week, there was no time▪️suggestion - call cleaning at homeWe all have different views on many things. Sometimes for almost everything. And what is for one person an apartment that is licked to a shine, for another it is a terrible mess. Therefore, in my example, the tactic of partial recognition was used. That is, you choose from the entire comment what is true and agree only with this part. In addition, you can offer your own option for resolving the situation, if appropriate. What is good about the technique? ▪️Such an answer will satisfy the critic, since you agreed with him, and even offered a solution. ▪️The critic will no longer want to stir up a big scandal if he is not a psychopath or an emotional vampire (but that’s a completely different story ☝🏻) ▪️Self-respect will not suffer, since you only admitted what is true and did not agree with the rest. This style of responding to criticism called assertive. It allows you to adequately respond to comments that are to the point or partially to the point. I invite you to the Anti-Loneliness group, we are working on the ability to build relationships. Sign up for consultations TG @Villanell, WA +7 (926) 307-0935