How to stop yelling at a child? Recommendations from a psychologist Even the most patient parents can sometimes yell at their child. Maybe you are tired due to a difficult day at work, or unexpected problems suddenly hit you. Perhaps this is a reaction to the child’s disobedience and whims. Or none of the above happened, but you still screamed. After the outburst of emotions, a series of relief sets in. But it usually doesn't last long. A series of guilt and repentance, remorse and self-criticism is just around the corner. How can you find other ways to express your anger? Being angry is not a sign of strength. An irritated parent conveys their insecurity and confusion to the child, further encouraging anxiety and resistance to parents. When a parent is unable to control the child's behavior, while experiencing irritation, anger or rage, much less showing it. Thinking that by showing strength, he will take control of the situation. Speaking allegorically to a child: there is no trick against scrap. But in fact, informing him of your powerlessness and inability to control the situation. I offer you several ways. How to redirect or release anger. 1. First of all, stop.2. Breathe deeply, inhaling through your nose, exhaling through your mouth (at least 10-20 times). 3. Do exercises. 4. Count how many electrical appliances you have in the house.5. Tear paper (unnecessary newspapers, advertisements)6. Kick a pillow in your room.8. Go to the store or just go outside to get some fresh air.9. Call a friend.10. Go to visit friends.11. Make an appointment with a psychologist, or perhaps call and tell him about your problem. This has happened in my practice. Recently, the mother of a child approached me. Talking to me on the phone. She decided to come for a consultation. We worked through this request with her (aggression on her part and the child’s rudeness in response). Another psychologist worked with the child. After consultations, the relationship between mother and child improved significantly. Leaving me from the last final consultation, the client noted how important it is for not only the child, but also the parent, to go to therapy. What methods do you have? Have you ever had similar cases? What did you do? What was the outcome of the situation? Educating does not mean shouting and humiliating