- “I guess I’m just a lazy ass,” the man says bitterly. “What do you think?” “Unpleasant.” It’s unpleasant that I am such a person. I think about what a powerful label it is - “laziness”. "Trivial laziness." "I'm lazy". I stuck it on myself - and all that good can be expected from you, from such a lazy person. And how many completely different processes and meanings can lie behind “banal laziness”. Probably, we can generalize that “laziness” comes when the brain is not ready to invest resources for the sake of what he expects to get as a result. Here's why...1. There are simply no resources. a) I’m already very tired and I need rest and recovery, not new tasks. b) Rest doesn’t help, because something has already gone wrong, from an untreated inflammatory process to anemia, from chronic burnout to depression. c) No psychic powers. Something is happening to my psyche that I don’t care about. Perhaps this is how some kind of crisis, the loss of something important or a traumatic experience is experienced. (And based on the symptoms, this may or may not be a variant of psychogenic depression).2. There is strength, but for anything other than this. The brain doesn’t want to invest in THIS because it doesn’t expect reward.2.1. These are not my goals and desires at all. a) It is necessary, but not for me. And if I admit this, then those who need it will be upset and will blame me (and call me an ungrateful daughter, for example. And this hurts). b) I’m used to striving for this, but this goal has lost its relevance for me. But if I admit this, I will have to deal with the question of what I want... And this is difficult and a little scary.2.2. The wishes are entirely mine. But the brain is in no hurry to invest in them, because it does not expect satisfaction from their implementation. Or, on the contrary, he is waiting for a setup. a) Because I encounter difficulties along the way, and I am already too accustomed to avoidance as a strategy. This is the first thing I do in any unclear situation. And the more I do this, the less experience I have in successfully overcoming a difficulty, the more experiences of powerlessness (and others like it, for example, guilt, shame, anger at myself) when encountering a difficulty - and the more reasons to avoid further.b) Because I'm trying to "eat the whole elephant." The task is too big and I need to break it down into steps to get moving. And to keep moving, you need to clearly see your progress. But for now it looks like a huge elephant, from which it is not clear which end to approach...c) Because the slightest imperfection hurts me and prevents me from receiving any satisfaction from what I have done. You can do even better. When I do everything absolutely perfectly, then I will be satisfied. And since you can always do even better, satisfaction somehow doesn’t shine. d) Because if I take a step towards what I want, it will change my life and require such further changes that scare me. And while between desire and fear I stand and do not move... The list is endless, like the number of possible subjective realities. If you want to move somewhere out of a state of laziness, but scolding yourself doesn’t help, then a simple question can help: what exactly am I avoiding? There is no guarantee that the answer to this question will lead to a state of vigorous productivity in the direction of the stated goal. But it will lead to greater recognition of reality. And this will allow you to do something with it.