In a previous publication, I wrote about whether you should return to a past relationship, you can read the link: https://www.b17.ru/article/513372/Now let’s look at the reasons why shouldn't you do this? 1. The first and perhaps the most important reason why you cannot renew a relationship is the presence of physical violence! No matter how your ex tries to convince you that he has changed and regrets that he used physical violence, always remember this is dangerous for your life and the life of your children.2. Because of fear. Your partner may blackmail you by saying that he will do something to himself and will not be able to survive this loss; as a result, you, worried about his life, want to give him a second chance. But remember that feeling fear is not the best foundation for a relationship and don’t console your ego with the idea that you can be someone irreplaceable in someone’s life. 3. Because of children. A common reason for returning or maintaining a relationship is related to children. Children can watch for years the picture of mom and dad arguing, knowing that there is no love in this union. And parents place on their children the burden of the sacrifice made for them to maintain a complete family. Of course, parental divorce is not easy for children, especially older ones. But the price to pay for this burden will be even heavier. 4. If you broke up due to constant betrayal - this dispositional trait rarely changes; there are people for whom fleeting pleasure is more valuable than general well-being.5. The breakup occurred due to the partner’s alcohol or drug addiction. Formed habits of an adult are difficult to treat, especially in a short time.6. Gaslighting in a relationship is emotional abuse in which a person makes you doubt the events that have occurred and your ability to evaluate them: “I didn’t say that,” “It never happened,” “You don’t really think so,” “You yourself) is to blame for what happened,... Typical gaslighting phrases, the main purpose of these phrases is to make the partner feel shame, guilt and doubt the assessment of what is happening. 7. The partner promised that he would change, but did not even try. Looking back, you can remember the reasons for your quarrels and. the phrase “I promise that this will not happen again” or “I will change.” But some time after the truce everything repeats itself. This means that the person will not work on himself for the sake of your union.8. If you decide to return because. that no one showed up during this time and you felt lonely, this will only be a temporary consolation and will soon lead to disappointment .