In my family, where I grew up, there was a law: When you leave the room, turn off the light! And if we forgot to do this, and the light was on in a room where no one was there, then everyone would get hit verbally. I learned this rule and thought that it should apply everywhere. Moreover, it was logically justified: why waste energy uselessly? When I got married, I brought this rule to our new family. But, as it turned out, my husband had his own rule about this: It’s convenient when the lights are on everywhere - it’s comfortable and the light bulbs last longer. It is believed that if you turn them on (heat) and turn them off (cool) often, the filament fails faster. As you understand, the clash of such rules could not do without conflict. In general, we sometimes quarreled over this, or rather, I grumbled, which spoiled the mood for both of us. And one day he said: “Let's count it. How long are we at home? Multiply by the number of all light bulbs/kilowatt per month. It turns out to be 10 dollars. Are our good relationships really not worth it?" And I thought... Yes, of course, they are, and even more, they are priceless. I still sometimes turn off the light behind him, but I no longer grumble. So this situation has ceased to be a conflict generator .Remember an unclosed tube of toothpaste that can destroy a family? There are so many humorous songs, poems, and pop numbers on this topic. And like crazy, I washed my socks, put a bouillon cube in soups, and kept asking, begging. : “I brushed my teeth - SHUT THE FUCKING TUBE!!!” And he, the bastard, on purpose: “All this, Lusha,” he says, “is secondary!” Tell me, girls, is it possible to love and shit at the same time?! In this song, the wife goes to her neighbor with a false jaw and a tube of “blend-a-med” lies closed on the shelf... Is it worth it? Let there be three tubes, and everyone can do what they want with theirs. this dried up tube of a broken relationship? One client tells how she and her husband got to the point where she told him to pack his things and leave forever. He went into the night, and she sat, roared and tried to remember how it all began, but she fell asleep without remembering. In the morning he came gloomy and began to pack his things. She asked him: “Why did we start fighting?” And he froze... He also couldn’t remember. In general, they made up, and a day later they remembered that they had a fight because he again left his slippers in the middle of the corridor, and did not put them in the locker. I googled a little on the Internet on this topic of stupid reasons for conflict and this is what I found: Here are mine Friends recently had a serious quarrel over radishes. She wanted to grate radishes into the salad, but he argued that radishes should only be cut into slices. It got to the point of “you’re a fool, you don’t know how to cook” and “then cook for yourself.” I used to quarrel (now I’ve accepted it) with my husband because he comes out of the bathtub all wet, and then all the floors in the apartment are slippery. And he doesn’t take a towel with him, he’s always yelling from the shower, saying, bring him something to dry off with!!!” My fault (for life) - I move the curtain in the bathroom in the wrong direction (towards the shower), because of this I constantly We are quarreling. We are quarreling because I hang the toilet paper incorrectly. The piece of paper needs to hang down, but for me it’s always the other way around. What should I do? Silently swallow and not pay attention? No, this will lead to the effect of a steam boiler with an overload. The way out is to talk about it calmly without complaints. If some stupid rules can destroy a relationship, then ask yourself: Are these rules really necessary? And you don’t need to think that candy wrappers left on the table are intended to drive you into an grave. It’s just normal in his world, but if in your world it’s wrong, then throw them in the trash - that’s all! So what’s more important: our principles or relationships? I choose the relationship, and you?