This article was written for the participants of Vl. Yakovlev’s project “The Age of Happiness”, perhaps it will be of interest to a wider circle of readers. “A person does not create his own ideas; we can say that a person’s ideas create him” Karl Gustav Jung Today there is a lot of talk about the fact that after the age of 50, modern people begin a new stage of life. They move in the direction of their development, change their activities, and are open to renewal. And indeed, the third age today is an opportunity, a new stage. life, and not its extinction. But knowing and understanding the opportunities given to us, we often do not use them. We find reasons, circumstances that, as it seems to us, do not allow us to achieve in reality what we would like. lives a vibrant and intense life at the age of 50+, we tend to think that “It’s good for him...he doesn’t have the same problems that I have” Or: “I could, of course...but I have...” And we stop to do a step towards a conceived idea. Refusing, hesitating, we then remember this with regret, a heavy feeling, and dissatisfaction with ourselves. Thoughts of this kind are quite natural. People who are 50+ today are the first to have the opportunity to live differently in adulthood than previous generations. And as we know, it is human nature to rely on the experience of our ancestors. So doubts and fears arise, but is it worth starting? Sometimes postponing changes in your mature life is prevented by a feeling of fatigue, lack of strength, energy, and mood. It seems that there is not much to do, and in general there is nothing to get tired of. But there is no mood to decide to act. We need some kind of resource, vitality. Where can we get them? Where is that source? The source, of course, is in ourselves. If there is a feeling of fatigue, lack of strength and a positive attitude, it means they are being wasted on something. And they can be spent completely unnoticed, unconsciously. And perhaps these are the forces that go into thoughts, experiences, feelings that are no longer relevant for us today. That’s why I came up with the idea of ​​“big ones NOT of the Age of Maturity” If you don’t know what to do in aged 50+, or you know, but just don’t dare, it’s worth thinking, figuring out what you CAN NOT do? I’m sure that everyone has more than one such NOT. What is it that I was thinking about before that I CAN NOT think about anymore? What is it that I was worried about before that I CAN no longer be worried about? What is it that I should have been worried about before, I CAN no longer be? From my experience, I can share such examples of liberation from outdated experiences. For many years I spent a lot of effort on the education and development of children. Now that both children have received a good education, I say to myself: “I can no longer worry and NOT worry about so that children have an education." It is interesting that such a consciously spoken phrase gives a lot of energy, releases strength, and gives satisfaction from the completed task. Also, for example, we can say to ourselves: “I can no longer worry about the fact that my mother, let’s say, doesn’t approve of my choice of partner, job, etc. We are both mature, accomplished women and we each have the right to our own vision of life.” We can no longer blame ourselves for what has NOT been done in our lives. Life has already happened. And the time given to us in the future is not for correcting the mistakes of the past. This is the time to take with us the best from past experience and enter a new stage of life. We can no longer try to correspond to how it was customary to look in certain teams in which we worked. Now our external does NOT depend on the dress code, corporate culture and is completely in our Many of our thoughts, beliefs, experiences follow us in the form of automatisms, habits of thinking in a certain way from a very early age. Perhaps there are still some instructions from mothers and fathers, grandmothers or949