“Giving birth is not soon, but it’s scary already now” “I’m afraid to give birth. I'm scared". A familiar phrase for many women. Most of them, one way or another, heard or uttered these words themselves. Despite the fact that the topic is “hackneyed,” it is still relevant for many expectant mothers, even if they have already given birth. The closer the birth gets, the more and more fear many of them begin to experience. The saddest thing is that this fear drives poor and previously impressionable and vulnerable expectant mothers to various forums. There, their fears, in most cases, are confirmed and strengthened by other “forum members” who tell various “horror stories”: “pain”, “ruptures”, “stitches”, “the medical staff is yelling, being rude”, etc. After them, it seems that ALL childbirth is something terrible, it is very painful and difficult. Anything can happen, of course, but still there are much more joyful and happy stories, you just have to want to see them. It should be understood that childbirth is, first of all, the birth of a child (beloved, long-awaited, “little miracle”); the process is natural and predetermined by nature itself. Labor pain varies from person to person. Nature, or, if you prefer, God, gives each woman no more than she can bear. Of course, you can spend every day waiting for the “X” day, worrying, “winding up” yourself, imagining how this will happen, but it is worth noting that this is just your imagination. Or you can try to do something different: don’t read various “horror stories” about childbirth on forums, but tune in to the positive (attend courses for expectant mothers, learn relaxation techniques, do yoga for pregnant women, walk in the park). Find something that interests you; avoid conversations on the topic of childbirth and pregnancy with overly emotional interlocutors. Don’t “try on” other people’s fears. Fear is contagious. Remember that every birth is unique. Discuss your worries with sensible and calm people who are ready to support you (for example: a doctor, psychologist, mother, husband, friend); if you want to prepare for childbirth, you can read magazines for expectant parents, special literature. Knowledge already gives half the confidence; if something bothers you about your condition, you shouldn’t go to the Internet, look for a bunch of pathologies, it’s better to see a doctor. Ask your doctor about labor and pregnancy. And don’t forget to learn the basics of breastfeeding and caring for a newborn in advance. Don’t be lazy, pay attention to these issues in advance, then you will have no time to read (then it’s better to leave every free minute for rest). Enjoy your condition. Believe that everything will go well for you. And the reward will be the moment when this helpless baby is brought to your chest - your baby. This unique moment is worth living for. Consulting psychologist Anna Kareva.