Almost a year has passed since the beginning of the SVO and the reaction of part of Russian society to it, which I call a “shameful” story. You probably remember these massive confessions by users of (now banned) social networks that they are ashamed of the actions of their country, in the most radical form - they are ashamed to be Russian. The hashtag ashamed of being Russian appeared almost immediately, instantly became popular, and tens of thousands of users joined it. From time to time I wonder and, on occasion, ask the opinion of colleagues and teachers - why exactly the emotion of shame became the main one, and not, for example, such emotions and feelings as anger, rage, sadness, fear, despair, guilt? What does this say about us, about our psychological organization? Is this a spontaneous reaction or a well-thought-out manipulation? Is this reaction constructive? First, let's figure out what are the characteristics of shame as an emotion. Shame is an emotion that arises in an individual as a result of his awareness of the inconsistency of his actions or his behavior (both fictional and real) with the values ​​and norms generally accepted in society. That is, shame is initially social; a person outside of society is not ashamed. There is always a shamer (real or imaginary) above the person experiencing shame. Thus, shame is manipulative in nature and can be formed artificially.K. Izard summarizes the feelings of the ashamed: “Shame is accompanied by an acute and painful experience of awareness of one’s own “I” and individual features of one’s own “I.” A person seems small, helpless, constrained, emotionally upset, stupid, worthless, etc. Shame is accompanied by a temporary inability to think logically and effectively, and often a feeling of failure, defeat.” A person experiencing shame is completely involved, he asks the question “How could I do this?”, Unlike, for example, a guilty person asks “How could I do THIS?” Shame can be healthy (it can be compared to a feeling of awkwardness, embarrassment) and toxic (and this is our case, when the emotion is so strong that a person feels inappropriate, inferior, even to the point of denying his self, national identity). From the point of view of transactional analysis, shame - it's a racket feeling. It always replaces an authentic feeling, most often fear. In fact, the one who is ashamed is scared! It is scary to be rejected, abandoned, abandoned by other people, by the rest of humanity. It is no coincidence, I believe, that many ashamed people left the country: on the one hand, this is a natural outlet for the emotions of fear - “fight or flight.” On the other hand, this is demonstrative repentance through shame, which shows the shamer that I am not like that, there is no need to reject me. From the point of view of Jungian analysis, strong shame appears in those actions that are not consistent with the Persona. This is how the Shadow manifests itself in the personality. Those who are ashamed do not have integrated Persona and Shadow, they are separated. In psychoanalysis, shame arises from the gap between the “ideal self” and the “real self” - shame from the discrepancy between what I should be and what I actually am, which has become noticeable to others (“I am not the one who I say I am. I was exposed." People who often experience shame have an unrealistic image of the “Ideal Self”, imposed on them in childhood by their parents and society, but they know their “real Self” mediocrely. In general, the culture of shame is characteristic of Eastern peoples - maybe that’s why shame has become the main emotion in the trigger point. Western society is dominated by a culture of guilt. In a culture of shame, loss of face is tantamount to death, but in Western society, guilt can be expiated and the reputation of the offender restored. Thus, shame is more destructive for a person, and even if there was manipulation, it worked very clearly and precisely. Toxic shame is unconstructive and unproductive; there is practically no way to get rid of it on your own. In one of the articles on the topic of shame, I found the following exit options: “The narcissistic path (escape to the opposite pole, pride reaching the point of arrogance - thoughts of.