All relationships go through crises and conflicts. They are an integral part of relationships.. But somehow there is a widespread belief that conflicts are something very bad, scary and unpleasant. Is it really? It seems to me only partly. Conflicts can be harmful only in one case, when the parties either do not want or cannot hear each other. In all other cases, this is definitely a more useful thing than all other ways - escape, annihilation, devaluation, denial - to deal with tension in a relationship. It is very easy in a situation of tension, when something in a relationship does not suit you, to run away, devalue, destroy the relationship or part of it in your reality. It's much harder to try to stay and see what happened and how it can be dealt with. This, however, sometimes turns out to be very difficult and painstaking work. But this work brings something valuable into the lives of those who dare to do it. The above methods are most often final and fatal to relationships. Such methods are more likely to impoverish human life. Unlike conflicts, after going through which, life becomes richer and more eventful. And relationships are clearer and deeper.