I don’t want to. I think everyone remembers this children's cartoon about a lazy boy who ended up in the country of the great Unwanted. My mother called me that too, but unlike the cartoon, my Don’t Want was not about laziness. My Don’t Want was the only opportunity to express a protest, at least somehow express an opinion and express needs. The style of parenting in my parental family, as in many others families, prohibited the free manifestation and expression of emotions. Children were forbidden to express anger, irritation and anger, noisy joy, sadness and sadness. Don’t scream, don’t make noise, don’t yell, don’t whine, shut your mouth... these are the ways of suppression. I had no choice but to SWALLOW my emotions and hold them , accumulating inside. At the age of 15, one of the organs of my digestive system failed, and at 18 it was removed. This is the price I paid for swallowing, suppressing, holding back my anger and irritation, to which I had every right. In our culture has a very strange, in my opinion, attitude towards feelings and emotions. They are treated as something more of a hindrance than a help. We live by the principle “the less emotions, the better.” As if emotions are something superfluous, as if they are not important. On the one hand, we know about them, verbally attach meaning to them, and teach children to distinguish between them. But then, in practice, as soon as they arise, we either suppress our emotions (we try to turn away from them, distract ourselves, not notice them), or we stop controlling them and release them into the world in the form of outbursts of rage wherever possible and impossible. Both ends badly. I gave one of the endings above... in my sad personal story. What does suppression of emotions lead to? In my work with clients, I pay a lot of attention to emotions and feelings, helping them to notice, understand, feel, call them by their proper names, live and express them in an environmentally friendly way. I try to make friends a person with his own emotions and feelings. First make friends, and then learn to control emotions correctly. Why am I doing this? Here is a list of what happens to emotions that are suppressed and not lived or expressed in an environmentally friendly manner.1. Emotions erupt directly, strongly, uncontrollably and for an insignificant reason: - a flash of rage in a person who has not shown his anger for a long time; - the development of a phobia in someone who suppresses real fear; - constant tearfulness in someone who has not lived through his sadness and grief in time. 2. Emotions find their expression through unconscious random actions: - a person who does not want to go to work accidentally gets sick; - a wife who is angry with her husband accidentally spills hot tea on him.3. Emotions are manifested through bodily manifestations (psychosomatic diseases): - throat diseases can be associated with unspoken grievances; - digestive problems with suppression of anger and rage, resentment, disgust, etc.4. Emotions manifest themselves through mental illness. As an example, depression, which can develop as a result of a ban on expressing anger. Whatever emotion we suppress, we always follow one of these 4 paths, so it is very important to learn to recognize all our emotions, even strong ones, painful and unpleasant. It is important to learn to feel emotions, live and operate with them. Sometimes my consultations resemble a school in which we re-acquaint ourselves with the world of feelings and emotions, step by step we learn to live and express it environmentally. I inform you that I conduct free 30-minute consultations, where I conduct initial diagnostics and tell you how I can help you. Are you friends with your emotions? WhatsApp, Telegram +7(938)484 53 48I will be glad to help!