From the author: We are able to accept any past in order to transform and heal our present. People come with different requests and problems. Everyone has their own experience, their own “backpack” behind them. There are pros and cons to every experience. Some people get stuck on past successes and don’t see the present, while others get hung up on failures, which also prevents them from moving forward and developing. In the process of undergoing psychotherapy, a person accepts himself and develops awareness and responsibility. Mindfulness is the ability to live “Here and Now.” The ability to track your experiences, thoughts and emotions, your state in a situation, both at a given moment in life and in a specific situation. Awareness helps a person maintain himself in what is happening, helps change a negative thought to a positive one, irrational beliefs to rational ones. Awareness helps in conflicts do not stoop to your partner’s level; do not give in to manipulation. For example: 1. Someone showers you with compliments - you feel a lift in your mood, a feeling of euphoria...2. You are criticized and you feel sad or angry. Everything is falling out of your hands... It is important for every person to realize: Anger is not him! Resentment is not him! These are just emotions that can be taken under control and abandoned what is unnecessary. Thanks to awareness, a person lives with his mind, manages emotions and feelings, makes informed decisions, and strives for well-being for himself and others. “Awareness of the present without running into the past or future leads to psychological growth. The experience of the present at any given moment is the only possible real experience, the condition for satisfaction and fullness of life, and consists in accepting with an open heart this experience of the present.” Frederick Perls “We hinder our own growth. As soon as something unpleasant appears, we get scared, we run away, we desensitize ourselves. We use all possible means to interfere with the development process.” Frederica Perls However, mindfulness is not only the ability to live in the present day, to be aware of one’s momentary desires, needs, emotions, to understand one’s loved one, but it is also an understanding of other people, the ability to load one’s head with the necessary thoughts, and the soul with the necessary feelings. A person who is aware of his life can always answer the questions: “Who am I? Where am I from? What am I doing? Where am I going?" I offer my clients approximately the following list of questions (it can be individual for each) 1. List what you can do well and confidently (resources)? What are your feelings?2. What can’t you do, but do you force yourself to do it? What are your feelings?3. An unpleasant incident from your past that evokes negative emotions and feelings? What did you gain from this experience?4. What are your capabilities and what would you like to start doing right now, at this moment in your life?5. List of your values ​​at this stage of your life? Thank you for your attention! I would like to end the article with a metaphor. Imagine your life as a river. You are sailing in a boat on this river. You can sail in a boat without oars. Wherever the current takes you, it will take you there. Or you can take the oars and steer the boat! I wish you wisdom and awareness! Order to you in your thoughts and soul! Hold the oars in your hands and successfully swim along the river of life!