I continue the topic of methods of “education” that parents often use, trying to bring benefit. But it often turns out that more harm is done in this way than the parent thinks. This article will focus on criticism. We often encounter the fact that parents consider criticism to be a very effective way of “education.” Expecting as a result the child’s desire to become better. What does the parent convey to the child with his criticism? What are the consequences of frequent criticism? The child develops dependence on other people's assessments. He grows up to be a perfectionist. He is dissatisfied with himself and devalues ​​his own and others’ successes. At the same time, he experiences frequent or constant tension and anxiety with the expectation of failure. He perceives the world through the prism of achievements, error-free decisions and results. Joy comes to him only from rare victories, while the process itself (study, activity, creativity) does not bring joy. Life from time to time is filled with fear with a feeling of worthlessness and fear of mistakes, attempts to control one’s feelings and needs, and attempts to please others so as not to provoke criticism. The child becomes unable to resist criticism and decides that it is easier to become completely “bad” . So he becomes a bully, a loser... and disintegrates his parents’ expectations. He goes into depression or illness, refusing even those activities that are feasible for him. It is important to remember that if you criticize a child, you take away his self-worth and he cannot be sure that he is valuable to you without achievements. As a result of criticism, his self-esteem is violated and he will no longer be able to really evaluate himself. If the consequences of criticism do not please you, then it’s time to think about what to replace it with? Teach your child to evaluate his activities independently. Try to compare your child only with yourself for a while back. Support your child's ability to enjoy the process. This way, the desire to develop will be based on the desire for recognition and pleasure, and will not be an attempt to avoid bad assessments and punishment. Share your feelings and experiences in response to your child’s achievements, ask questions and be interested in his creations. Remember that if you constantly criticize your child, he may become diligent and diligent, but will never become a happy adult. Love, respect and appreciate your children! It will be useful for parents who use shame for “educational purposes” to read the following article: https://www.b17.ru/article/50579/. Read other articles about methods of “educating”, you can find them in the selection of my articles: https://www.b17.ru/article/51346/To be continued... subscribe so as not to miss: https://www.b17.ru/articles/nazarova_k/