From the author: It turns out that family is like semolina. At the kindergarten they cook it badly and with lumps. From which we conclude that semolina porridge is not tasty. But it’s not a matter of porridge! And the fact is that it was poorly prepared. “It’s time for you to get married,” say mothers, grandmothers, girlfriends... it would seem that the whole society “puts pressure” on girls, inclining them to the idea of ​​marriage. And I tell you - NO. Now there is unprecedented propaganda AGAINST the family. And it is from our grandmothers, mothers, friends, etc. Yes, in words they can say this: “start a family, it’s time for you to get married.” But a smart girl looks at the families around her and thinks: this is terrible! I do not want it so!!! Because after the phrase “it’s time to get married” there immediately follows a reproach to the husband - the father of the family, saying that he didn’t clean up after himself again, forgot to buy bread again, everything rests on me, these men are of no use, they can’t earn money for the family... To the girl You can say as much as you like that it’s time for her to GET MARRIED, but if this is done by a woman who complains about her husband and her marriage... an adequate girl will ask herself the question: why should I go where it’s so bad? Until I was 30, I thought that family was not for me. My parents are still together, they love each other, but their family model does not suit me. My friends have created families in which I would not want to live. Until I was 30, I didn’t see (because I didn’t even try) positive examples of families. That's what I'm saying. There is no pressure from society FOR the family. There is enormous pressure AGAINST the family. And I fell under it, watching films, and at one time also TV series, where there are no prosperous families, because... making a movie about them is boring, no one will watch. On the one hand, I heard from everywhere that a family is good, but this was said by people who were not happy in their marriage. Family seemed more and more meaningless to me. They once lived in tribes, then in communities, then in large families - simply because they could not survive otherwise!!! It was a matter of SURVIVAL. Now... a man doesn't need a wife. There is a dishwasher, a slow cooker and a general dining room on the ground floor. I didn't need a husband. I had good positions, a lot of interesting work. To be honest, I rather needed a wife. However, there is a dishwasher, multi-cooker and generally a dining room on the ground floor. When I say "not necessary" - I mean that it was NOT a matter of survival. And only married friends insisted that “it’s time to get married,” while demonstrating how bad they felt about being “married.” Everything changed (started to change) when I first met a family I liked. Zhenya and Anetta Shleenkov looked truly harmonious, they were TOGETHER. And not just together, but exactly the way I would like. Then for the first time I thought: I don’t want a FAMILY? Or don’t I want to repeat the examples of families, which are the majority? And I started looking. Looking for more examples of families that I would like came up. Families where I would like to be adopted. And I found it. I changed my focus. I began to see that there are wonderful (suitable for me) families! They are few. But they exist. And one day I so unbearably wanted a family... not because I HAD TO, but because I WANTED!!! Sincerely, from the heart. My loved one responded to my wish very quickly. So how can you figure out whether you should get married or not? 1. Learn to hear yourself, your inner voice. 2. Look around. Analyze what families are around you. If these are only negative examples, then find positive examples. To complete the picture. Find family models that you like and that are right for you. Not just "good" by anyone's standards. And on their own. Families in which you feel good. Where I would like to stay. By comparing the different experiences of different families, it will become more clear to you, what do you need? What do you want? Or you don't want to. Having one-sided (negative) examples before your eyes, it is impossible to draw an objective conclusion. You really don't want a FAMILY? Or you don’t want the SUCH family as your parents/girlfriends/they show on TV, etc. And if,!