As a rule, people, trying to find out who is right, consider it simply necessary to find also who is to blame. Or maybe you shouldn’t look for an answer to the question “Who is to blame?” Sometimes the feeling of guilt sits so deeply in a person that he begins to blame himself for almost everything that happens around him, the regular bus didn’t arrive on time - it’s my fault, I would have gone to two minutes earlier, I would have had time; The grandmother from the next door is sitting today on a different bench than usual, this is probably because I sat down in her permanent place. And the person doesn’t even think that the driver could have been delayed at the gas station, and the grandmother got tired of sitting in one place and decided to walk to the next shop. Why does this happen? Remember how often as a child you heard: “It’s your fault that you didn’t tidy up your brother’s toys, it’s your fault that you didn’t have time to go to the store, it’s your fault that you can’t do your homework, and so on and so forth... And then this the feeling is reinforced not only at home, but also at school and at work. Over the years, a person gets used to feeling guilty, hence often a bad mood, constant anxiety and worries about any reason. We are used to answering the question “Who is right and who is wrong?” And if I’m right, do I need to look for who is to blame (unless, of course, this is related to illegal and immoral actions that need to be reported to the right authorities). And if I’m wrong, this doesn’t necessarily mean that I’m guilty of something! Think about it, sometimes we ourselves give a person the “honorary” status of “GUILTY,” and the person doesn’t even know about it. After all, everyone has their own standards, their own values, the boundaries of “I’m guilty” or “he’s guilty.” The most difficult thing is to accept what is called a “feeling of guilt” in yourself, to understand whether it is so aggravated that you always find yourself guilty of everything in your own eyes. Or, on the contrary, the feeling of guilt is unknown to you, and it’s better for others to feel guilty if they want to. One way or another, sometimes asking the question: “Who is right and...” stop for a moment and think about whether you need an answer to the question: “ Who is to blame? - Explaining your behavior to others and to yourself. - Constant apologies for your actions to others, - Justifying yourself in the eyes of others and in your own - all this indicates the presence of a feeling of guilt! Guilt devastates a person, weakens him. At its core, guilt is a negative emotion. Nevertheless, it is an integral part of life. Awareness and revaluation of one’s own feelings allows one to develop and move forward. Therefore, it is necessary to get rid of feelings of guilt. I wish you to feel guilty as little as possible, live and enjoy life, experiencing positive emotions! Sincerely, Alla Naginailo. ©