Personality strives for integrity, the missing puzzles strive to return and fit into the system to create a whole image. As we go through life situations, we can discover in them what we once lost and give ourselves the right to possess it again: ❄️our respect, ❄️our dignity, ❄️our will, ❄️our confidence, ❄️our right to happiness and love, ❄️ your freedom to choose. When something touches us deeply, and then without processing emotions and feelings at that depth, we sometimes draw irrational conclusions and make inadequate decisions, impose prohibitions (I’m never lucky, I attract bad things to myself, I can never be happy, I I won’t meet anyone anymore, I shouldn’t trust people, etc...). In therapy, we carefully live the situation so that the psyche can process this experience environmentally, we look like detectives for what dysfunctional beliefs have settled in the place of trauma and return the ❄️lost, ❄️forgotten, ❄️lost I can say both from the side of a client who has gone through this path in personal therapy, and as a psychologist who accompanies a client on his path - this is a big and serious job, worthy of respect for his courage and patience. I keep one quote in my notes, it’s a pity I didn’t write down the author and the book: “water tends to the same level” and what are the vices and the mistakes of each partner are usually inextricably linked with each other. A person chooses a life partner with the same internal brokenness as himself. Their relationship turns into a dance of dysfunctions, where both know every step. There is no way that one partner can exist in a couple. much healthier than others. Healthy people do not dance with unhealthy people. We are imperfect, but complete and self-sufficient, and for this we must love ourselves. The worst prison is our mind, but the key to it lies nearby - in our pocket. You need to take risks, take responsibility for your life, free yourself from self-condemnation and self-blame, regain the right to be who you are and accept without reserve. One of the options for “lack of integrity” is the Neurotic need for love 💘 Signs of neurotic love: 1. Hypercontrol, checking phones and social networks, the partner literally “suffocates” from the attention and care of the neurotic2. Pathological jealousy and the demand to be the only object of love and attention. “You must love only me.”3. Strong sensitivity to any “fluctuations” in relationships that can be interpreted as rejection - the neurotic perceives it as the end of the world and tragedy4. Demanding constant proof of love from a partner, other behavior will be interpreted as betrayal 5. “No matter what I am or how I behave, you must accept and love me.” In fact, the word LOVE here can be taken in quotes. These signs are the same for both men and women. Some clients experience difficulties before contacting a psychologist. For those who find it difficult to decide on a job request, I have a FREE 30-minute consultation-acquaintance service. To make an appointment, write in private messages or @sharanda_a telegram