We'll talk about every girl's worst nightmare - funny and stupid situations at work, in which they became the main characters. For example, they were discussing someone in the smoking room, without mincing words, and this someone was standing behind them. Or she scolded a colleague, but in the end it turned out that he was right. Or she simply made a mistake in the letter with the name of an important recipient, or, worse, mixed up the Skype chat and sent a frivolous or obscene message to her partner. The main question: what to do in a situation that seems like a bad dream? Get out of harm's way? Or pretend that nothing happened? Or, on the contrary, actively act to justify yourself? Which strategy is more effective? Probably each of us has found ourselves in funny and stupid situations. And no one can guarantee that we won’t find ourselves in it again. Therefore, it is useful to prepare in advance so that you don’t feel painfully ashamed later. So, what gives us special trouble when we find ourselves in a stupid situation? At first, there is a feeling of shame, which comes from self-assessment: “I’m not like everyone else,” rooted in childhood. It is followed by the emotion of fear: “Oh, God, I was wrong! What will people say?” And the appearance of confusion from the fact that it is not clear how to behave further. As for shame, it’s quite difficult to eliminate it on the spot; it’s better to start working on yourself earlier so that you can relate more simply to your “differences from others” in general. For example, there is an exercise “reading a poem in the subway”, which, when done well, significantly reduces the threshold of sensitivity to what “people will say” (which, in fact, is an assessment not of “people”, but of the person himself, which is why you need to work with yourself ). As for confusion, in this case, prepared reactions are very helpful. We’ll talk about them below. Another reason why it’s so unpleasant to make mistakes is the deterioration of relationships with people or the loss of reputation. In such cases, it is imperative to get in touch with the person and ask for forgiveness and restore his favor. But you shouldn’t scold yourself at the same time, you didn’t become worse from this mistake, so support yourself too, instead of judging. Situations and possible reactions. Came out of the toilet with my skirt tucked into my panties. The best reaction in a situation related to appearance is not to attach undue importance to it. It's an everyday matter! Looking at those around you, correct the flaw with a sweet smile and say: “It seems like it’s better after all!” The main thing is not to stop smiling. If the fool himself doesn’t care about this, then those around him are no longer interested in laughing at him. I made a mistake in a business letter with the addressee’s name. Yes, people really don’t like it when their names are confused. Sometimes you can simply apologize, but if this is a person of a higher status, an apology alone will not be enough - the person will leave a bad feeling. Therefore, you need to direct all your energy into creativity instead of worries - urgently figure out how you can improve the situation. For example, send a small bouquet with an apology or a box of chocolates by courier service. Or come in personally and demonstrate how sincerely you regret your mistake. At a minimum, an apology, at a maximum - an additional sign of attention. Under no circumstances should this incident be “hushed up” - it could damage your reputation. I discussed my colleague/boss in expressive terms, not seeing that he was standing behind my back. Here the situation is worse, because it is no longer a mistake and not very good behavior to judge people behind their back. Possible reaction: having noticed the person being discussed, end your story with words like: “But in general, this is a good person and I respect him very much.” After this, you must definitely meet with this person and offer him your sincere apologies. It’s better to do this when you’ve cooled down a little from your emotions. By mistake, I sent a personal letter to one of my partners or colleagues. It's good if you immediately noticed the mistake and corrected it by writing the following letter of apology. You can call and personally apologize (and also ask to delete the letter without reading, if possible). The main thing is not to overdo it with emotions when apologizing. If.