Everything is bad. It won't work. Nothing will work out. It's always like that with me. I'm a loser. All bad things happen only to me. [There are suspicions that I have already written something like this] My favorite is catastrophizing with my girlfriend by concentrating on the negative. Purely statistically, everything cannot be bad. And it cannot be that only bad things happen to you. Sorry, but not all people even have a head. I mean that literally. Not all people have a head, some don't. True, they are not entirely alive, but they are still human. How does it work? Our brain is wired to see the bad. He needs it to survive. Good, this is, of course, good. But people usually don’t die from good things. And if they die, it won’t be right away. And how they die from bad things. And, sometimes, quite quickly. After all, our dear ancestors lived in extremely unfriendly conditions. Therefore, the spotlight of our attention especially easily and naturally lingers on things that do not give us pleasure. And our imagination will definitely draw us the most negative scenarios for the development of events, so that we can prepare as much as possible for a universal death. Living in such a world is extremely difficult. Why live at all when some kind of trash is constantly happening and there is no, even the smallest, frail and thin ray in this impenetrable kingdom of piz... oh... tsa... However, since statistics terribly do not like the number 100, then not only is this happening to us bad. There is a lot of good around us, inside us. Beautiful houses, trees, good people, pleasant music, cool movies, interesting books, bright sun, stunning gloomy sky, delicious food in the refrigerator, loved ones, close friends, our achievements, skills, successes and good luck, etc. But when Catastrophe and Negativity prevail, it is very difficult to see any of this. It’s as if we are standing next to a huge poster that occupies the entire field of view and on which “P(F)OPA” is written in huge letters. And sometimes it’s so difficult to look behind this banner and see that, in fact, there are rainbows and unicorns there. Yes, sometimes clouds roll in, but beauty never goes away. It stays in place. How to deal with these two nasty cognitive errors? Every day, remember all the good things that happened around you and to you and within you. Have you opened your eyes? Cool! Brushed your teeth - good girl. Went to work - great, you have work. Talked to a friend - generally great. Wrote a test - great. Yes, in our lives something so enchantingly good rarely happens, an ordinary day consists of many some little pleasant and unpleasant things. Yes, not everything is good. Yes, some places are bad. Yes, sometimes things don’t work out. But life is a gradient of shades of gray... and green... and red... and blue... and brown... and purple... and grey-brown-casual. Yes, there is no need to ignore something bad, devalue it, or not notice it. All sorts of mistakes, mistakes and other unpleasant things are also an important part of life, they normally teach us something. But it's not all bad. This is statistically impossible. And, damn it, life is worth living. There is more useful and interesting information in the telegram channel “Tell me what should I do?” https://t.me/tellmewhatcanido