If it weren’t for you....The mental apparatus dictates to us the reflex pattern S=>R. That is why it is very important for us to understand in which category we think. Namely, in what coordinate system does our personal psychological thinking or the thinking of our opponent or client take place? Since the projections of the personal unconscious fall on the screen of our consciousness with clear pictures of our subjective inner mental world. And using the example of the fact that someone in our environment is constantly trying to unload into us emotionally and unconsciously with an observable and certain frequency (for example, once a month or once a week, and sometimes in some cases weekly). We can observe how a person’s level of symbolization of objects actually fails with the loss of actual reality. And he or she begins to run amok in the flow of his unbridled anger, in transferences of projective identification and verbal indignation and confusion of his own consciousness. When there is a stream of verbal stupid polemics with markings of one’s personal reflexive words and patterns of unconscious phenomena. At the same time, for her, it is precisely this phenomenon in the ongoing outrage from the outside, in her eyes it also looks “reasonable” and “adequate”! In fact, this is an impossible option to react sensibly and resist, or withstand a given tension with the conscious side of the other self . Since any sane arguments on the territory of the speaking opponent are meaningless for him and denying her, iron confused arguments of <projective identification> collected from her personal, own field of an overcrowded small container of the unconscious. In the understanding of the psychoanalytic concept, this phenomenon of triangulation represents a human child demanding the breast of an absent mother, a stream of milk into his open and hungry mouth. This phenomenon is a completely small container for the assimilation of the current moment, when excess and unassimilated information flow begins to literally pour out through the open mouth of a screaming and indignant human child. The container of a human child is extremely small and the analysand is not yet ready for assimilation and objectification of this moment <here and now>. There is also a factor of lack of personal patience and grounding and the very concreteness in thinking and the moment of everything that is happening. And it is precisely this phenomenon that is the most definite notorious projective identification of an unconscious phenomenon. In a combination of two cobbled-together unconscious objects, this will also be a phenomenon of the sadomasochistic stage of both with an absent sane it. Two, cobbled together into one closed system, from time to time begin an open conflict, the appearance of which is spontaneous, but at the same time it occurs in a system of a certain time and intensity passions in this period are very great. Here we observe how two opposing forces are each pulling their system in the opposite direction. When the coupling ligament is strong, and the forces of intensity and energy are spent idle, since they are aimed at heating and discharging the accumulated libidinal, unconscious, especially intense energy. In this unconscious game, the coupling of two, we can observe that all the same forces at the same time, they are, as it were, equivalent, but they are these forces of objects with a plus and a minus, and they are located in completely different poles. And their roles are also defined and they are still different. The power of one screaming open and emotional controller splashing out his accumulated anger-rage on a special victim who is silent and stunned by the current moment, in love with his tyrant. Even here in the picture we can observe that the controller is still losing his position and it is his container that is extremely small and yet he himself is this hungry and screaming man-child demanding “the flow of breast 89510 987 594