You shouldn’t expect that two people with different tastes and habits will always agree with each other on everything, will always be on the same page. Conflict is a normal part of any healthy relationships. Moreover, whatever the reason for disagreements at home or at work, if handled correctly, conflict provides an opportunity to strengthen understanding and connection between people. But to do this you need to master one important and useful skill. We are talking about the ability to resolve conflict. So how to behave after the acute phase? Below is the answer to the question. If feelings are strongly hurt, then the relationship suffers, resentment accumulates, even when the conflict has passed. This means that it is necessary to compensate for the damage and make appropriate emotional repairs. I give recommendations on how to do this. Give each other time and space. The conflict can be completed, but not completely resolved. After an argument, especially if emotions are running high, everyone needs some time and space to calm down and think through the situation both logically and emotionally. Use the pronoun “I” To restore a relationship after an argument, you need to learn how to communicate effectively. It is not difficult. Just use I statements when saying what you think or feel. This way, your counterpart won't feel like you're blaming him or making assumptions. He is less likely to become defensive and more likely to listen. Listening ≠ Hearing Actively listening means really trying to understand your opponent. Moreover, this applies not only to verbal reactions, but also to non-verbal signals: • turn off the TV; • put down the phone, documents; • establish eye contact; • do not interrupt. Place the emphasis on understanding the point of view of the interlocutor, and not on speak up yourself. When you have listened, sum up, make it clear that you really listened and took everything into account. If necessary, take a break. Sometimes a repeated discussion can turn into an argument again. Do you feel like the situation is getting out of control? Suggest a pause. After a while, you can return to this issue again. In the meantime, you both have time to think it over, calm down and better understand your feelings. Learn to forgive and apologize Be willing to forgive. The unwillingness or inability to forgive others makes conflict resolution impossible. If you realize that you yourself were wrong, apologize, but do it sincerely. An effective apology is critical to healing a relationship. Know when to let go. If you cannot reach a consensus, agree to disagree. With your will, call it a day (unless, of course, it fundamentally contradicts your fundamental principles) and move on. Use humorOften, you can say something in a joke that would otherwise be difficult to express without offending. However, it is important to laugh with the other person, and not over him. As you can see, the key is not to try to avoid contradictions and quarrels, but to learn how to resolve them correctly. This is what helps keep relationships healthy, strong, and trusting..